Author: The Dopest Blogger Alive

Who are you? When this question is asked, so many people quickly answer without pondering what the actual question really means. You may answer, well I am a lawyer, doctor, basketball player, entrepreneur, hard worker, etc.. You may say that you’re  a person that has kids, nice cars, a decent home, etc…. All of those answers above did not answer my question. Those answers are strictly what you do or what you possess but they are not who you are. What will happen if you no longer possess the things you have or participate in the things that you do? What will happen if you get fired from a job or loose your nice cars? Will you no longer be you? Some people believe that their life no longer has value just because they got fired from their profession and now they will no longer do what they used to do. But that really wasn’t who they were.

As humans, we put too much pressure on ourselves and others. This pressure creates many negative feelings which creates a downward spiral of negative events. Pressure is one reason why many commit suicide. Because some feel that there is no point in living since they no longer have or they no longer are a(n) “_____”. Now, this may be a dramatic case but this is how some feel but we must take the pressure away from ourselves.

Now I can’t say who you are because I don’t know you personally but I can answer the question for me. I am an expanding being. I am someone that knows that no matter what things will always work out for me. I am someone that is very grateful and understands that there is a lesson that can be learned in every situation that I experience. I am apart of God and I am striving to see the world through his eyes as he would want me to see it. I am a naturally loving being that recognizes when I’m off balanced from the natural love that I possess. I am one that knows that I will sometimes fall off my path but I am one that will align myself to get back on it effectively. Being in law school is something that I do and having a child is something that I possess but it is not truly who I am.

I could go on and on about who I am because there is more to me than that paragraph above but you get the picture. STOP PUTTING SO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOURSELF!! It is okay to be what you want to be and have want you want to have. But understand that there is more to you than that. So I’m going to ask you again. Who are you? Comment below.

When we go through our hardest times, it is only natural to reach out to vent to those who we feel that are closest to us. At the time, they may be doing or saying anything that they can to make you feel better but some of those people are also judging you in the back of their mind. You may say, it is hard not to judge someone who has done something that you feel you wouldn’t have done. But in my opinion, it should just stay at that statement without the judgment. When I listen to some of my friends express themselves about whatever, I may say to myself, “I would have done something different in this situation” but I do not judge them and think they are stupid for doing this or dumb for doing x,y, and z. I don’t have any right to judge another because I don’t know their mindset fully or know what they are battling with internally. I have had people judge me in the past and that made me not want to reach out to them when I felt like expressing the real. Have you ever been judged for something that you have told to your friend or family member? Are you a person that secretly judges others when they express themselves to you in confidence? If so do you feel that you have the right to judge others for certain things that they do? Be cautious of who you are confiding with! Express your thoughts below.

Don’t forget to have gratitude on your journey. Sometimes we focus so much on our hustle and on where we want to be, that we forget about how far we’ve already came. Some believe that if you are happy about where you are now then you will most likely never move forward. Although, that may be true for certain people it is not necessarily true for all. That belief depends on the individual and how focused they are. There is a difference in being content ( a state of peaceful happiness) than being fully satisfied (a state where nothing else is needed or wanted). Some of us may never be fully satisfied with our life because we desire to expand more and more. But during our expansion, we are able to be content being thankful for where we are in this exact moment of our life. Being thankful for where you are now will only increase more to be thankful for in the future. Let’s be thankful for the air we breathe, for the car that runs but windows that don’t roll down, for the house that has a roof over our heads, for our bank account that may not have the amount that we desire,..etc. I believe that there is a positive in each situation that we view to be “negative”.

Life is very busy for me and at times it is hard for me to shift my focus to enjoy the benefits of what I’ve achieved thus far. Here’s a few things that I do that has helped me with this issue:

• Pray and/or meditate each day before I leave the bed/house {If in a rush I pray in the car, sad but true!}
• I look at my vision board as I’m getting dressed
• Keep a small journal and each day write 10 things that I’m thankful for that day

What are your beliefs on being content and satisfied? What are some things that you do to keep your gratitude on your journey? Comment your thoughts below!