Don’t Be a Contradiction to Your Desires

What are some of your deepest desires? Close your eyes and briefly imagine something that if you achieved or received NOW, it would ignite your soul… Now that you’ve imagined it, can you honestly say that you haven’t been a contradiction to your desire(s)? If not that’s great but if you have, this is something that you may NOW want to be conscious about.

We all possess deep desires whether we share them with others or not. Some desires may be viewed as being on a larger scale of things such as being a millionaire while others are perceived smaller such as keeping a steady job. What ever your desire is, you may be blocking it by being a direct contradiction to it. One way of being a contradiction, is having resentment for others who’ve already achieved the desire you want. If you are not happy for those who already have what you want or who is already where you aspire to be, you are continuously pushing it further and further away from coming directly to you!

For example, lately on my timeline I have been seeing many people getting married or engaged, getting accepted to the school of their choice, getting offered amazing dream jobs, etc. Resulting from those wonderful experiences, I have also been seeing many others who are bitter because they are not yet married nor engaged or receiving what they deeply desire. By sending negative vibes, whether verbally voicing them or internally thinking them, you are keeping the vibration of lack heavily in your experience. You can also push them away by thinking low thoughts such as your desire being unattainable.

Most people are familiar with the introductory version of “The Law of Attraction” which basically says you will experience what you focus on. So if you want to get rich then you shouldn’t have hateful thoughts based on those who are wealthy. If you want to be married you shouldn’t harbor negative feelings towards someone else who is married. You can’t receive your inner desire unless you are happy for them because then your focus is set on achievement rather than the lack of it. Have faith in knowing that what GOD has for you, it is specifically for you and someone else receiving their blessing will not strike you from receiving yours! If you are NOW aware that you are in fact contradicting your desires, don’t feel bad about it. The good thing is that you can change your thoughts NOW. Start using affirmations to help change your beliefs.

“When you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don’t contradict your desires.. Think about what you have asked for, and make sure that your actions are mirroring what you expect to receive, and that they’re not contradicting what you‘ve asked for. Act as if you are receiving it. Do exactly what you would do if you were receiving it today, and take actions in your life to reflect that powerful expectation. Make room to receive your desires, and as you do, you are sending out that powerful signal of expectation.― Rhonda Byrne, The Secret

Many spiritual teachers have spoke about this subject but here’s a clip from one of my favorite authors! Listen to it and comment your thoughts below! What are some desires that you have been a contradiction to?

19 thoughts on “Don’t Be a Contradiction to Your Desires”

  1. This is great. As a man thinketh, so is he. Although I’m not jealous of other people who have achieved, I tend to beat myself up and shut down when I don’t achieve something I really want, and I focus my energy on that one negative thing instead of the hundreds of positive things in my life that I have accomplished. The key to changing that is to focus on the positive and regain my confidence, thereby, positioning myself to receive everything I desire.

  2. This is so true! I have found that focusing on the negative things in your life, whether it is by being jealous of others or feeling bad internally because of what you lack, draws more negativity to your life. It’s like that saying, “When it rains it pours”. Well I figured out recently that it doesn’t have to! By being positive in the rain you can force a little sunshine through the storm! So when I see great things and big things happening to people, I praise with them! I’m happy with them! And if I’m near them, I tell them to rub some of their blessing off on me! Lol

  3. Bravo! Bravo!!! I love it! It rings so true. People have to be proactive in manifesting their desires in life. The universe is made up of energy and what we put out, we get in return.

  4. I would say for me this worked in the complete opposite prospective. I was raised by an entrepreneur so I was constantly told “Davie don’t work for the white man all your life”. So as I began to come into my own and I looked around seeing so many people’s growth and success, it pushed me into the mindset of “Davie if they can do it you can do it to”. So the success of others has been nothing but a constant motivation to me and my Journey. And as I’ve been doing all my life I’ll continue to being as many people to the top with me. Helping others feeds my soul in a way that’s indescribable.

  5. Indeed! I often see how negative vibration hinders people from greatness. Energy can not be created or destroyed… it transfers. Positive or Negative? The choice is ours.


  7. Indeed! Your mind is powerful. We have the power to manifest everything down to the image of our hopes and dreams. The thinking of individuals today is extremely tainted therefore hendering them from truly being happy. When one does apply the law of attraction and changes the way one thinks great things happen!

  8. You hit it right on the head with this article. I agree I watch and listen to people who want to be married or a steady long term relationship that says negative things about those who are married and in a long term relationship. I’m married and I listen to her down play marriages and add her 2 cent in where its not needed. Instead of evaluating your own relationship and see why 8 years later her partner hasn’t considered her wife material she should’ve been left him if she knows thats what she truly wants and he doesn’t. Since they are getting no where and steady breaking up and making up. Misery loves company and she is very miserable. I love spreading love and helping other when I do my life is better I feel better and even when the enemy tries to attack me I still win because my God sees me and knows my heart. I would give my last anything to anyone who really need it
    You are amazing Peaches! Mua XOXOXO

  9. I believe that this whole article is on point. A lot of truth behind it all. I find myself contradicting my desires/dreams a lot. Busy building up the next person, speaking life over the next person, praying healing for the next person (family, friends & ect) that the things that I desire to do, I fall behind on. My biggest theme most recently is “Do what you do but don’t loose focus while doing it.” It’s okay for me to be there for my beloved ones, but I can’t put me second to anyone any more. I am eager to see how all the people I helped and supported will they do the same for me? I’m focusing on one of my main desires and it will be achieved. But, in the midst I have to be fully prepared to move some people out and cut some people off.

  10. The main contradiction I have is with relationships and money. I want to work on these things I say I want love and abundance but I contradict these desires with thoughts of fear and doubt! Great post!

  11. I can hate something with out disliking a person, and respect their grind. For example . Beyoncé is one of the baddest divas of this era. She is the best at what she does no one can deny, or take that from her. You have to respect her. Yet, I hate the way she uses her sexuality in every aspect of her music. I think it takes away from her talent. Everything is always hinting at her sexuality. I wish her music was more about the music and not sex. But then she is Beyoncé. Sade is sexual, but I don’t care if my daughter recites her lyrics. I use my energy towards being proud of her. Towards saying positive things about her. She has accomplished a lot. I should only hope to accomplish a fraction of her accomplishments. I envy her work ethic. She is an African American Woman and so am I. And so we Are both great in our own right. I may hate to see her strip at the Oscars, objectify herself, or portray animalistic behaviors in her videos. Just the way the mass media has a tendency to exploit African American Women. But I love me some Beyoncé. This woman is phenomenal woman. She turned her husband’s infidelity into millions. If my husband cheated on me I don’t think I’d get over it the way she did. She gives another name to making lemonade from her lemons which life has given her.

  12. So far in life people have beloved information fed to them from outside forces while ignoring their true self. Once you realize you were made in his image as a great creator you will allow your guidance system to reign high. Give yourself permission to believe in yourself more than you believe in anyone else on the planet. Often we disregard self for others. We do not have to sacrifice for others because there is no lack in the universe only continual SOURCE which is GOD.

  13. Peach, this post is so insightful and thoughtful – so many things we need to be reminded of! Thank you for sharing! Our character and practices are very often contradictory to our desires. I think, for me, the challenge is because I do not have access or exposure to the kinds of people, places, and things that will help bring my desires to fruition, I feel defeated because there seems to be nothing after which to model my thoughts and behaviors. However, I have experienced God opening doors for me that ONLY HE CAN OPEN and giving me unique opportunities that ONLY HE CAN GIVE apart from me having what I thought I needed. I think he does that to keep me humbled and to keep me understanding who is really in control. It’s why I love that quote, “God doesn’t call the qualified; He qualifies the called.” That fact encourages me that even some of the limits I place on myself will not keep me locked out of my destiny.

    Also, I had to drop my favorite quote about jealously:”Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative – self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it’s a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them”. ~Jennifer James

  14. Peach,

    I’m late, but this post is amazing and is right on time for me. Sometimes we aren’t aware of how we are projecting our thoughts on our life. You are absolutely right we have to be intentional in our thinking. I’m not sure why I wandered back to this post but it is one that I needed to see today. Thank you for this!!

  15. Thank you all for commenting on this post! All of your responses were very interesting and I’m glad that this inspired some of you! We have to remind ourselves daily about the important things that will assist in our growth.

  16. I can vouch from first hand experience that positive attraction results in positive results. I went through an internal struggle for years and experienced being a contradiction to my own desires. I learned about positive affirmations and thought if I merely just said positive things that I would attract positivity, or by saying positive affirmations that it would merely change my way of thinking. Little did I know that even the slightest amount of doubt could offset my vibration with the Universe. In other words, the Universe CANNOT be fooled. This year is when everything that I learned came together. There is indeed power in the tongue, and I found that if I speak positivity into existence as well as believe what I am putting out into the Universe, the Universe has no choice but to align with what I’m putting out. I also learned to not speak on what I don’t want because I’m only feeding energy into the negative thought, in this case what I don’t want, and putting it into my vibration until that of which I don’t want actually manifests and I receive it. It took me a while to actually grasp that concept, but that thought process in itself is another form of a contradiction to your desires.

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