That title is slick clickbait, WELCOME. You can never lose what’s meant to be.
As you begin or mature on your spiritual journey, you will naturally separate from many people. It’s like a universal force, that’s moving on your behalf placing you exactly where you need to be to receive that blessing you asked for; to experience that experience you desire, etc. We have a deep comfort in our old or current relationships. ( I know I did) But we must be willing to grow.
The statement “No New Friends” may be toxic and no longer serve you. However, some of your old friends may serve a specific purpose and you should no longer try to force them into being how you want them to be.
“Losing Friends” is a common theme once you hit your late 20s. During your growing years, you may lose friends or go in and out of different phases with certain friends. However, by your late 20’s you think that the friends who are there, are the ones who are going to last a lifetime. At least that was my thinking.
As you grow, your vibration will continue to rise and may differ from those who were once close to you. And at that point, the Universe (you) naturally does its thing. Separating you from lower frequencies and connecting you to more vibrational matches.
For example: When a developing woman no longer embodies the low vibrational energy to attract men on the lower frequencies, she will then rise to a place where she will only see or start seeing, more men who are of the quality that she truly desires.
Everything is about energy and the world that you are experiencing, is a vibrational match to the exact energy that you are exemplifying.
Since “losing friends” is an inevitable part of growth on your journey there are certain mindsets that I believe you should adopt. Instead of believing that you lost a friend, believe that you gained insight and received a shift.
This will only happen if you learn
How To Lovingly Release People.
The last friendship that I released, I literally used these exact words “I lovingly release you”.
You must remember that all relationships including your friendships are a reflection of yourself. Again, you are currently attracting the energy or currently rising above it. Either way, as a conscious being it is not of truth to go from truly loving someone to automatically hating them.
If your “love” has an opposite, then it is not love but a strong ego-need for a more complete and deeper sense of self, a need that the other person temporily meets. It is the ego’s substitue for salvation and for a short time it almost does feel like salvation. Chapter 8 Enlightened Relationships pgs.151-152 “The Power of Now” -Eckhart Tolle
After a fallout, separation, or whatever you want to call it, if you loved that person then you should release them with love. If all of a sudden, the love you had for the person turns into you gossiping about them or attempting to sabotage them, then it was never 100% genuine in the first place.
On our journey to evolving consciousness, we no longer have to have dramatic fallouts, we can simply RELEASE THEM WITH LOVE- THE DOPEST BLOGGER ALIVE
After my brother transitioned from this physical plane and while preparing to marry my now husband, I was not expecting to let go of any friends. We are not in charge of when it’s time to let people go. Releasing people is a spiritual practice. So you must do it in a way that serves you rather than hindering you.
Personally, the friend I released was one of my closest friends with whom I have been connected with since my college days. She was more like family than a friend. Even though the situation was very hurtful for me at the time, I could only send love to her vibrationally cause that’s all I had/have to give. Even more so, from being in a sensitive place from my brother’s transformation, God told me it was time to release her with love.
As you know, I love to give action steps on the advice I give. These particular action steps are new ways of thinking. So here it goes. (This information applies to family, associates, etc.)
3 Ways To Lovingly Release Someone
- Letting people, things, and situations go is a natural part of our life cycle.
We have to learn to release all attachments that we have in life period. Our life should operate pretty identically to how our bodies operate. (A really deep book that explains this in depth is Deepak Chopra’s Book of Secrets.) Imagine if our bodies held on to everything that we absorbed, never letting things go. We would be at the least constipated and mentally ill. Your bowel system and your mind have to move freely for your health.
I easily go with the natural flow of the universe.
I accept the now and I fully live in the now.
I learn valuable lessons from all of my past and current relationships.
That relationship was an experience and I detach from the outcome.
2. When you are against something you are against yourself and against the entire universe.
I can’t remember who exactly I learned this from but almost all of the OG spiritual teachers have said this in one way or another. Simply speaking the negative feelings you are harboring against another won’t serve you. And since others are reflections of yourself those negative feelings are against yourself. It makes perfect sense when you break it down. It’s the same thing as you get back what you put out. Why should you get out of alignment because of something that is no longer natural in your universe? Specifically, speaking why should you be out of alignment with a relationship that you’ve energetically outgrown? Release it.
Action step: When you naturally think of them send them love.
There was a habit created when you communicated with this person daily or however so often. So of course you will naturally think of them at times. If you have love to give, send it to them vibrationally. At the very least, when thoughts come up send love to yourself.
I am thankful for those who are meant to be with me in the now and I lovingly release all friendships/relationships that are no longer a vibrational match to me.
Change is inevitable, I embrace change with joy and ease.
3. Level Up Your Friendship with Yourself i.e. Be Your Own Bestfriend
It’s a known history that when a women breaks up with her man, she starts glowing the fuck up quickly. That’s because most of the time we deal with our real emotions and then we start loving ourselves and having time for ourselves. Well, that’s the same for any relationship.
We all know that at the end of the day, it is you and you alone who think the thoughts that are in your head. We also know that we were born alone and that is how we will transition. So it is time to be your own best friend. Let the relationship with yourself take your number one spot and then all the other relationships will be vibrational matches to your energy.
I love spending time alone.
When I am in silence truth is revealed and I learn so much about myself.
I always prioritize my relationship with myself.
I fill myself up with love and it is easy to spread the love to others.
Going back to the title of this blog, you CAN INCREASE YOUR SELF-LOVE after releasing any relationship if you do the work to shift your mind. There is no need to suffer especially since life will remove any attachments that we cling to anyway.