Category: Expressions

I’m changing it up guys, for those who keep up with us you know I usually express my thoughts on current events going on in the news but this topic has been weighing on my mind. What is worse physically or emotionally cheating on your partner? Or can we even define emotional ties as cheating? For instance I’m friends with a guy in a relationship and while we have never done anything close to “cheating” I mean nothing not even hung out just the 2 of us, lately our conversations have taken a very flirtatious turn. We laugh & joke like always and the jokes have started to take a kinky turn, deep convos more personal, more “I’m thinking about you” texts etc. point blank I can see the emotions beginning, while technically nothing is wrong I often think to myself “If I was his gf I wouldn’t like these texts”. Am I wrong? Is he wrong? What’s worse the physical stuff or knowing someone else is filling your shoes with the simple things like putting a smile on their face, making them laugh, cheering them up? At this moment I’m single but I remember when my relationship was headed south I too made an emotional bond with someone else. That person truly supplied everything I was missing in my relationship. We all know it but people still seem to forget SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING….and if that’s true sex outside a relationship isn’t either then.  While cuddled with one, my mind could only think about him who never even kissed me, held me close during a movie just simply listened & made me smile. Well I did a little reading and I would’nt be me without hitting you with the stats! The technical name for this is an “Emotional Affair” and according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married men have had sexual affairs. 20 percent of married couples out of this national survey have experienced emotional infidelity. I’m sure those numbers are higher for us non-married couples out here. So let me know, have you ever had an emotional affair? Is physical cheating worse than emotional? Express it?

-Sunny D

Now Fellas ya’ll gone have to help me out with this one because I simply don’t understand. As a 21 year old woman I think that it is out of order to just take me to your crib when we first meet. Taking a girl to the crib to just “chill” lets the girl know that you don’t date and you only want to have sex. (even if that’s not the case) I cant speak for all women but most of the women my age desires to be dated. It’s okay for us to chill at the house sometimes but that’s after a few dates. Money is not an excuse either because there are plenty of free dates for you to take her on, you just have to get creative. You can take her to a museum, to the park for a picnic, or even to the court for a basketball game. It just depends on her likes. If a man takes me to the track on a date, I’m going to be excited. I may feel a little of a challenge because I’m out of shape but I will still appreciate that he’s contributing to me getting back in shape. There’s so much to dating than the regular expected things.

For the men who just want to have sex, 9 times out of 10 if you want to have sex with her she’s interested too. But it’s all about your approach. Women still want to feel special whether they are having sex with you or not. For example Eddie Murphey on Boomerang smashed most of his girls on the first day and he only smashed them once and quit it. Although he knew it may be this once he still dated them for that one day. lol Now I’m not saying that you only have to date a girl one day and you will be able to have sex with her. That just depends on the female. But what I am saying is that men need to upgrade on the dating tip. You should be able to give without expecting something back. The more you give the more you will receive. If you are dating her, spending time and just being yourself, you will receive everything you want from her anyways. (again just depends on the person)  If in the future a man approaches me and asks me to come over his crib I will politely tell him no because “chilling” in place of a date is a high school mindset. Why don’t all men date? Is chilling acceptable for the first date? Express It!!

-Juicy Peach

Hey Readers,

What do you think about female self esteem? If I were to measure it as a whole, I would say it’s pretty low. All women are not included in this but most women think low of themselves and they project this low feeling on to others. These females are the overly critical to people because they hate themselves. In a sense I’m talking about haters. I believe that females hate on each other more than men. Friends and family being jealous and envious of each other is common within a group of women. This means that we need to see this as a problem and look to solve it. The solution? Love. Send love to each other and the love you give out will return to you multiplied. For example, I was a contestant in a pageant at my new University. I gave an pretty good performance and won 1st runner up and received an abundance of love from my fellow male schoolmates. At the same time I received a unbelievable amount of hate from the females after I won. This was shocking to me because they do not know me. Social networking sites were booming with my full name and their thoughts about how I shouldn’t have won. I sent those individuals love and thanked them for noticing me. I know that people who don’t believe in themselves or their talent war against those who believe in themselves. So I challenge people to love themselves so that you will at least have the ability to love others. So what do you think? Do you think women hate more than men? Is this an issue in your life?

-Bubblegum

Goodmorning Readers! Today I just wanted to send out some positive energy your way that was sent to me. Lately I’ve been worrying about the wrong things. I’ve been having misunderstandings in my relationships. I’ve been stressing out about my classes because I still dont have one of my school books. And I’ve been putting my energy onto other things that I shouldnt have.  But then it comes to me like an ephiphany *in Chrisette Michelle’s voice*!! LOL I need to only focus on me and everything else will fall into place. And that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. Now everything is going my way. So if y’all are going through the same thing that I went through please know that you dont need to worry about no one else but yourself. You cant control nobody’s actions but your own. I promise that if you focus on yourself with love and positve energy your life will be the way you want it. So go for what you want and dont take no as an answer. I love ya’ll!!!!

 

-Juicy Peach

Okay readers this is a huge, huge, HUGE topic that I had to write about. When you’re in a relationship for some reason there are always people damning your relationship. Haters are what we call them. But we all think that haters are only outside people but please beware of the Slithering Snake! According to dictionary.com slithering is defined as to slide down or along a surface, especially unsteadily, from side to side, or with some friction or noise. The slithering snakes are the people who are closest to you. They may be your sister, brother, best-friend, uncle, auntie or even cousin. They are the people who you at least expect to cross you. Their goal is to conquer what you have or something like it. They could be trying to get your man/woman or to make you as miserable as they are. As we all know misery loves company. When you discover that you have a slithering snake among you at first you may be shocked. You may think but why would they do that to me? I thought they loved me. They may love you but remember how you love may not be how others love.

Signs of a Slither Snake

• Calling your girl/man ugly (friction or noise)
• Always knowing your business but secretive about theirs (slide down or along a surface)
• Trying to be besties with your mate (unsteadily)
• Only seeing the negative in your mate (unsteadily)

 

I’ve had someone to tell me that the boy I was seeing was ugly but when I claimed him all of a sudden she was so interested in him. It was like she wanted to slowly take my place. I’ve also had a friend (at least I thought she was my friend) scooped my x right after I dumped him LOL. O’l girl didn’t waste any time. I know ya’ll probably thinking well if you dumped him then why should you care. But I think its messed up to finally found out that your friend wanted your man the whole time you were with him she was just waiting for her chance. I would expect that from outside people but I didn’t expect that I had a slithering snake amongst me. Usually if you go through a breakup your girls are the ones cheering you up, “ Cheer up ol pup” lol  but the slithering snakes are the ones who will be happy inside. They finally got their chance to get what they wanted since the beginning. Luckily in my case I really needed to separate myself from that relationship anyways and the slihering snake helped that process move faster. What God has for me will always and forever be for me that man wasn’t the one for me. But I still didn’t understand why would a girl want a man who still wanted to be with his ex. But not to worry because the grass is never greener on the other side.

 Nicki Minaj song “Warning” is a perfect example of the Slithering Snake she thought her girl Kandi was a real friend but ol girl was a slithering snake smh!!! “Damn bitches wanna f*** with my man on the other hand things ain’t always what you plan..It’s the ones up in ya Prom picture ..Salon with’cha…Now they wanna..creep in ya mans jeep..I bet you Nicki won’t sleep”

 

You cant stop someone from being a Slithering Snake but you can beaware of them and its best that you don’t tell your business about your relationship to them. Have any ya’ll expreinced a slithering snake? Have any of ya’ll been a slithering snake? Let me know the juicy gaga! Express it!

-Juicy Peach