Now Fellas ya’ll gone have to help me out with this one because I simply don’t understand. As a 21 year old woman I think that it is out of order to just take me to your crib when we first meet. Taking a girl to the crib to just “chill” lets the girl know that you don’t date and you only want to have sex. (even if that’s not the case) I cant speak for all women but most of the women my age desires to be dated. It’s okay for us to chill at the house sometimes but that’s after a few dates. Money is not an excuse either because there are plenty of free dates for you to take her on, you just have to get creative. You can take her to a museum, to the park for a picnic, or even to the court for a basketball game. It just depends on her likes. If a man takes me to the track on a date, I’m going to be excited. I may feel a little of a challenge because I’m out of shape but I will still appreciate that he’s contributing to me getting back in shape. There’s so much to dating than the regular expected things.
For the men who just want to have sex, 9 times out of 10 if you want to have sex with her she’s interested too. But it’s all about your approach. Women still want to feel special whether they are having sex with you or not. For example Eddie Murphey on Boomerang smashed most of his girls on the first day and he only smashed them once and quit it. Although he knew it may be this once he still dated them for that one day. lol Now I’m not saying that you only have to date a girl one day and you will be able to have sex with her. That just depends on the female. But what I am saying is that men need to upgrade on the dating tip. You should be able to give without expecting something back. The more you give the more you will receive. If you are dating her, spending time and just being yourself, you will receive everything you want from her anyways. (again just depends on the person) If in the future a man approaches me and asks me to come over his crib I will politely tell him no because “chilling” in place of a date is a high school mindset. Why don’t all men date? Is chilling acceptable for the first date? Express It!!
-Juicy Peach
Now im not a man but i have alot of guy bffs….Ive noticed tht they treat women how they demand to be treated or look like she should be treated…Simply saying if she looks like she aint going for tht they will come correct or if they go for it & see oh she aint like tht they will try the more respected gentlemen approach….but u right juicy peach $ isnt an issue (unless shes superficial) the best dates, & gifts ive been on & received were cheap or free….Like volunteering w/some kids, he knew i liked kids & givin back so it showed he actually paid my interest attention
I concur on Boomerang, Eddie Murphey was the MAN in that movie, brothas need to take notes. Men don’t date females because they have been able to get free ass in the past and expect college women to be no different.
I think it’s fairly insightful to hear this from a female’s point of view. Often times men are left with the “niggas aint shit” aspect which just reiterates the fact we don’t try to date enough. But this piece really explains the benefits of taking things a little slower and using creativity in order to get to know the person.
As we can see from taking a look at society, a one night stand isn’t difficult to obtain. But when it’s time to grow up and move on from that way of thinking many have no experience in that aspect and simply end up playing games lacking the ability to grow anything more than a physical relationship. Men are a special species who sometimes need a blueprint instead of just being trusted to always make the right decision.
Overall this piece really let me know that women out there do think about these things and aren’t expecting the world from every guy they meet…but just a little effort. Good Piece!
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