Author: The Dopest Blogger Alive

Have you ever required someone to get tested before they began having sexual intercourse with you? I know you may be thinking well there is no need for that because we will be using condoms. However, let’s be truthful! How many of y’all had sex with a condom and the condom broke? Or you eventually got comfortable with that person and y’all just stopped using condoms altogether? I’m sure that question applies to most of you all, but that’s why it’s important for you and your partner to get tested together!

Some people are afraid to get tested because they are more comfortable not knowing their status. Also some don’t get tested off the strength of their partner getting tested. They believe that since their partner didn’t have anything they don’t either, so there is no need to get tested. I think that it’s mature and a safety protection for yourself and others, if you know your status. One of my friends was having sexual intercourse with someone that she has known for years. She went to the doctor to get her normal checkup and she received all negative results for every sexually transmitted disease. The doctor’s office gave her a printout of all of her results. She then presented the printout to the guy and asked if he could go get tested. He gave her every excuse in the book of why he couldn’t go get tested. She even offered to go with him. He told her that he couldn’t go to any clinic because of the way his insurance is set up. He then told her that his doctor was booked up for a couple of weeks and he could only go on Friday because that’s his only off day. Every week, Friday came and went and he never mentioned testing. She eventually fell back from him and I would have too!!! This same guy has tried to have unprotected sex with her numerous times but never presented her with test results.

What are reasons that people refuse to get tested? There are many people who are having sex with others but are afraid to confront their partners with real issues that are on their mind. SEX SHOULD NEVER BE A TIMID TOPIC.  I have heard numerous men say that they don’t like going to the doctor. I feel that people in general are afraid of going to the doctor because of what could happen or what they might have. But you can’t cope with the maybes or what ifs, you can only cope with what is real. Getting tested helps builds trust with you and your mate/sexual partner. It also kills the elephant in the room. A lot of people feel that their sexual business is their business but you are having constant sex with me, your sexual business is my business! But that’s just me! Do you know your partner’s sexual status? Are you afraid to ask them to get tested with you? Would you stop having sex with them if they refused to get tested? Express it below!!!

-Juicy Peach

Do you think asking someone how many people they’ve had sex with is an appropriate question to ask? What will you gain by knowing this information? Will the answer be a deal breaker? Do people have a pre limit set up? If someone is over that limit they won’t consider the person as a candidate for a mate? I know I am asking a lot of questions, but I am curious. I actually wouldn’t mind disclosing the amount of partners that I’ve had sex with however; I don’t see the point of being asked this. Freshman year of college I asked someone this and he stated that he lost count years ago. I must admit when he answered the question I was disgusted.  We were only 18 at the time and if you’ve had sex with hundreds at that age, then you may reach a thousand sooner or later. However, does it really matter how many people they slept with before you?

I haven’t asked that question again since that day. I have matured and I don’t think that it is appropriate question to ask.  If you have already fell for that person it’s not likely that you would stop talking to them just because of some things they have done in their past. Especially if how many sexual partners they previously encountered doesn’t affect you currently.  I don’t ask this question because whatever he has done in his sexual past is the past and I don’t want the past to be brought into the future. If he is willing to get tested together and wear protection, that’s what matters to me in the now.

Here is why that question shouldn’t be asked:

• You may automatically judge the person and miss out on them before actually knowing them
• The person may have matured and changed their ways
• There are double standards which may cause a huge issue between you guys.
• The amount of sexual partners you’ve had doesn’t attack your character

It is likely that the average man has engaged in more sex partners than the average woman. In society it is more acceptable for men to sleep around but frowned upon if women do the same.  If you are judging someone by the amount of past sexual partners, are you judging yourself?  Do you feel that it is okay for men to have more sexual partners than women? Is this an overall appropriate question to ask someone?

Express it Below!!!!!

-Juicy Peach