When is the proper time to expose your mate to your child or children? Is there a certain rule that you apply? As some of you guys know I have a child and have dated plenty. I never felt the need to introuduce any of those previous guys to my son. But what if I meet someone that I personally would like to grow with? How would I know for sure that it’s time to make that next step? Some may say, wait till you know that he/she is the one. However, how many times have we thought that a certain person was the one but ended up being “the wrong one”? Plenty of times if you were to ask me. We really don’t know how long someone will last unless we are able to forsee the future. So should we go off the longevity of our prediction?
I have been scarred from watching mothers bring almost anyone around their child, espically this younger generation. Some mothers are not taking inconsideration that you are really hurting the child during thier biggest part of development. I have witnessed some kids personalities being effected in a negative way, resulting from the multiple men that have been exposed to them. I didn’t know anyone that my mother was dating until I was a bit more older to catch on to things. However, she never brought multiple men around me.
When first evaulating the credentials of the person, ofcourse they will have to pass the normal checkpoints to be good enough for you. But here comes the question again! When are they good enough to meet your child? One day I asked my friend who has two kids this same question and her response had me thinking for awhile. She stated that the way you will know that it’s time to introduce your lover to your children, is when you can answer these 3 questions truthfully. Do you trust that he will catch you blind folded on the edge of a building? Do you trust that he is strong enough to catch you? If not strong enough to catch you, do you trust that he will get up there on the edge of the building to be by your side? Those questions are super deep! Can you guys answer all those 3 questions with a yes?
What are the rules that you go by or the standards that have to be met before some is able to meet your child? Is there ever a correct time? Please comment your thoughts below!!!
