When you meet someone new whether male or female one word that they automatically use to describe themselves is “Real”. They always say that I’m as “Real” as it gets, I always say whats on my mind. Well today my question is where are the real people when stuff gets real in your life? Where are they when you are going through your problems and you need some “Real” encouragement? You will notice that the same people who have always been there will remain. Those are the people who didn’t have to claim their “Realness” because it was already proven through their actions.
Track 10 on J.cole’s Album (Cole-World Sideline Story) is a song called Lost Ones. Lost Ones is a perfect example of a man being there for a woman when it was time for dating, sexing, and etc…but when she ended up pregnant he wanted the quick way out. What happened to the previous man who was always there? He acted like she got pregnant by herself.
She said nigga you got nerve
To come up to me talkin’ bout abortion
This my body nigga so don’t think you finna force shit
See I knew that this is how you act, so typical
Said you love me, oh, but now you flipping like reciprocals
There are so many examples of “Real” people not being there when its really time for them to be there, this is just one example. The crazy thing is that people can really fool you because you will have no idea that they will treat you a certain way because they always treated you good at first. Have ya’ll ever been in a situation where you were going through something and a friend or family member bailed on you? Express it!
-Juicy Peach
Great words but U just explained on topic… I relate to the song cause I am currently now lending that way… I have mutipul girls pregnant and I m just over 20… But I have no strong base relationship wit either…. We was either friends or just fucking around… But I told each one it’s their decision and explain why it’s hard as hell to raise 3 when I cant afford myself and my bills… I have no job and trying to finish school… They have no job and trying to finish school… Won’t a baby just put more stain on our lives???? Real times to me means u have to think outside the box to overcome this event… Life is hard as fuck and just to bring another one in should be plain so he/she would have the best life possible
That J Cole song goes so hard! I really like this article because it is real and makes a good point.Real people don’t have to state their realness because it doesn’t have to be explained. #deep
Wow, this is so true. One thing I have learned is that those who love to point out the fact that they are “real” or “keep it real” or even dare say “I’m the realest you will ever meet.” are the ones you have to watch out for. It’s really a shame. But being real is a state of being, a vibe. It’s a feeling that people can detect more than a trait that has to be observed…at least it is to me.
Okay tod i understand that 3 babies will make your life more difficult but what about them? it seems to me that you are only thinking of yourself. I’m not coming at you but why didnt you do the things to prevent having a baby? (protected sex) now being realistic i know that most people dont have protected sex but if you are one of those people you have to be ready to deal with the consequences. You have to think about yourself last in this situation cause shit just got real. You never know who your child is they can be the next Michelle or Obama. Now i halfway agree with supporting their decision because at the end of the day you cant make them have or keep the baby, but your influence is greatly put on their heart. If those girls decide to keep that child you should support them and stand up to the plate. Take responsibility for your actions.
I say real recognize real….now this can be interpreted mau diffrent ways. Example.1- you meet some one and they said everything right and everything about the sitiation seems right and the sex was amazing then….yep yall know it your pregnant and he is gone. This interpretation of real was that he REALly wanted to hit it and u juss fell head deep in it BUT ITS OK HAPPENS TO THE BEST OF US….yep urs truely. Just learn this lesson and love the seed in your womb and teach him or her better. Lesson number 1 (learned)
Now Example.2 (this niggaz a trip) ladies your with a guy and all is well ur dating for maybe 6mos and YOU NEED FINANCIAL HELP…now if he isnt workin dont fault him ENCOURAGE him. But if he is working and up until now your money has been THE GOOD OL “Our Money” but for some reason when you told him you needed some financial help he made a face like you had just told him home boy just passed…that “Our Money” just slipped into 3rd gear “DAT NIGGAZ MONEY” his interpretation was that he just was,REALly not that into you. Its cool just start keepn your recipts and take all ds shit u bought from him kindly AND PLEASE STOP TRICKIN. lesson number 2(learned).
Just remember if you can add an Ly to your boo thangs REAL then he probaby wasnt real just a REALly good stunter or liar or faker either way ON TO THE NEXT ONE HUNNI
ITS BEEN REAL TOODLES FOR NOW
SUGAH!
Life is hard enough, without bringing a baby into an already loveless relationship. Now you have to teach them the right way when you went the wrong way. #Think
I don’t know how you feel about prayer and all, but to me the only way you are going to have a majority of REAL people in your life is if you ask God to bring them to you. Until I started asking GOD to help me attract those people who will promote positivity and well being in my life, I was involving myself with some fucked up ass people. A majority of the people we meet in the streets and in life period are never going to be the REAL DEAL. By the time your old and grey you will be lucky as F*** if you have 7 real Muthafuckas standing next to your death bed. Although you will meet tons of folks who claim they are real…you honestly aren’t going to know whose real until some shit BLOW UP. To say that you’re REAL…means a lot. It means that you are a captain who is willing to go down with your ship, it means that if some shit go down your going to ride out, it means that if you said some shit behind my back and I asked you about it, yo REAL ass going to confess that you said the shit. Folks use the word REAL like the use the word LOVE. In todays society neither of those words mean shit.
As far as me being done wrong or let down by people who were suppose to be there for me….I have a degree in that field. I HAVE went through some of the worst let downs ever…Imagine being pregnant and the man who knocked yo ass up…stops fucking with you, all your so called buddies start talking about you behind your back, and even the guys parents call to let you know that you having a baby by there son is ruining their sons life…YES…I have definitely been let down by some of the REALEST MUTHAFUCKAS out there. But that entire situation taught me a lot about people. I learned to be careful of whom I let in my life, and whom I choose to have ANY KIND of relationship with. I’m not saying that I will never run into anymore bullshitters, but it sure has shortened my list.
My great aunt once told me & my cousin *bubble gum* tht w/any relationship friend or lover there are always RED FLAGS you just have to pay them attention. Till this day i remember tht, rather a person claiming their real or actually are you will get clues to which is true we just often dont wanna see the red flags but they are there!
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