Unfair Love

I was courtside to this situation and it was so mind bothering that I had to write about it. There is a woman and man who have known each other since childhood but they haven’t been in touch over the years besides small talk on social networks. One day in their hometown they met up with a group of family and friends, this was the first time they have seen each other in about 4 years. When the woman saw him she was definitely feeling him but she didn’t act on it because she is not the type to pursue a man. By the end of the night the man spoke up at let the woman know that he was feeling her also. The woman was glad that he approached her because she liked what she saw. They had a ton of things in common down to the type of books that they read. The thing that attracted her most, is the grind that the man had. His mentality was all about improvement and reaching his full capacity. The woman is the biggest grinder she is always setting goals and achieving them so she desires someone who is equally yoked. The man was showing great interest in the woman so she let him run the show. He asked if she wanted to leave with him so they can spend time alone from the friends and family. The woman agreed to leave with the man and they had an exquisite time. She felt as if they were deeply connected and was wrapped with the warm energy the man was giving off. When the night ended the man dropped the woman off and she never heard from him again.(What?!?!?!?!?) These are my personal thoughts about how that situation ended! But I am leaving out a part of the story.

The woman dated another man in high school who she also grew up with who happens to be good friends with the man. The woman and the other man were young high school sweethearts but their relationship ended the woman’s senior year in high school. They stayed in contact but always remained friends. So is that why the man never contacted the woman back? Is he afraid to face his friend about how he feel about the woman? OR was he not really feeling the woman?? But that couldn’t be because he is the one who pursued her!!

 I actually believe that it is not wrong on either party if the woman and the man dated. The reason why is because the woman dated his friend in high school which was actually six years ago. People grow and change so much in six years. Also the man she dated is in a committed relationship with someone else and has other things going on. Although he might feel some type of way if she dated the man, that still shouldn’t stop the man and woman from dating. He was her high school sweet heart but this man could be her soul mate. She didn’t talk to him to spite her ex, life just brought them together. You can’t keep tabs on someone just because you dated them once in your life. I understand if the relationship just ended but if it was 4+ years then I feel like you have to just be happy for them.

 If you are now really interested in someone but that certain person is friends with one of your ex’s that you dated years ago would you ignore what you feel?

 If you are the ex that finds out that your ex girl/boyfriend that you dated years ago is deeply feeling one of your friends would you judge them for wanting to start a relationship together?

 Do you think the man and the woman should give their “relationship/friendship” a try?

PLEASE EXPRESS IT!!!!!

-Juicy Peach

6 thoughts on “Unfair Love”

  1. I love this subject because I’ve experienced a similar situation! I was torn between my heart and the fact that this guy and a friend had relations. It ate me up, and at first I mad at myself for developing feelings for this guy even though what he and my friend shared wasn’t deep or serious. I felt like a bad friend. Then I realized you can’t help how you feel because even when I pulled back it still happened. Like it was fate. The friend and I talked it through and I love her even more for that because her acceptance was much needed for me. Great subject, I love it!

  2. That’s deep and that’s wonderful that y’all was able to talk it through and remain friends!

  3. I feel they should try it out because that ish is old news. If I was the friend and I’m settled and happy in my relationship I wouldn’t stop anyone from achieving their happiness, especially my friend. But the man has weak qualities because if he was a REAL man he would take what he wants regardless of what anyone thinks.

  4. I think it depends on the realrionship. From a friend stand point he already slept with the girl so unless he plan to take it to his grave he already “crossed” the friend why not talk to her? But lets say he hadnt done so yet I feel like how long ago the relationship was matters and if the ex feels some kind a way bc if your friend dont care who cares! Yal seen best man it a be aight lol Now from the ex stand point I know I have exes I completely do not care about at all anymore so I wouldnt carethts why its best to communicate so u kno where ppl stand. Now for this specific case u never know it could be bc of the friendship or maybe he was simply full of ish and looking for a nights fling and didnt intend to go any further bc friend or none a person will pursue or at least keep in contact with someone they really like

  5. Some men and women are detached from their feelings and are unable to face their desires, sexual or non- sexual. Sounds like both parties are dealing with some unspoken issues. Sexual tension causes all of us to reveal crazy sides of ourselves. I think he a freak for sex and is also grinning from his true self

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