THE JUICY EXPRESSIONS

Some people are too needy for love. It seems as if some can’t live without a mate. They will go from relationship to relationship not healing their wounds from their previous relationships. This is not healthy. When you continue with this pattern you will eventually lose yourself if you haven’t already. Being alone and being lonely has two different meanings. If you feel like you need someone at all times then you are feeling lonely. The state of being alone is being able to kick it by yourself. Sometimes you need to be alone so that you can build yourself. If you are not at peace with yourself, then how can you be at peace with others? I like to be alone sometimes. After me and my boyfriend split I took that time to have fun learning additional aspects about myself. I had time to think profound and in depth. When I’m alone I think about my future. I think about the things that I can do to better myself. I love being alone. I feel as if I’m my own best friend. My x-boyfriend however took a different route. After I told him that I needed space and didn’t want to talk to him anymore he immediately went to the next girl he could. Instead of dealing with the emotions from our relationship he tried to burry them, which didn’t work exactly because old feelings keep arising. I don’t know all the thoughts that he was thinking exactly but I do know that he thought that maybe it would be easier to move on to the next girl rather than dealing with the pain alone. I don’t understand why he couldn’t deal with the emotions alone instead of feeling lonely and always having someone there. When people don’t deal with their real emotions it comes back to haunt them. It could be ten years later and they still haven’t dealt with the emotions from their earliest relationships. But people cope with things in different ways.

Know that you don’t always need someone else to hold you down. Hold yourself down. Be there for yourself and love on yourself. The more you love yourself the more others will love you.

Are you a person who always feel lonely? What do you think is the best method to cope with a break up? Express it!

-Juicy Peach

The marriage rate amongst African Americans is the lowest out of every other race in the United States. According to Joy Jones in her article, “Marriage is for white people” Joy states that,  “In 2001, according to the U.S. Census, 43.3 percent of black men and 41.9 percent of black women in America had never been married, in contrast to 27.4 percent and 20.7 percent respectively for whites. With these statistics at such an alarming rate the question now is….What do a sistah have to do, or needs to STOP doing in order to be considered marriage material? Perhaps one solution to the problem would be for black women to start exercising some self-control when it comes to having children and living with a man. I think we as black women often make the mistake of giving too much to a man before it’s time. For example, if you live with a man, have all his babies, wash his clothes, pack his lunch, and cook his dinner EVERY NIGHT before he even considers proposing to you…what is there for the man to look forward to when he actually does marry you?  Why would a man want to go to the next level with you, when he has already unofficially experienced that sector of life with you? What’s your opinion? Express it!!

-Alex