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“Losing Friends” Can Increase Your Self Love

That title is slick clickbait, WELCOME. You can never lose what’s meant to be.

As you begin or mature on your spiritual journey, you will naturally separate from many people. It’s like a universal force, that’s moving on your behalf placing you exactly where you need to be to receive that blessing you asked for; to experience that experience you desire, etc. We have a deep comfort in our old or current relationships. ( I know I did) But we must be willing to grow.

The statement “No New Friends” may be toxic and no longer serve you. However, some of your old friends may serve a specific purpose and you should no longer try to force them into being how you want them to be.

“Losing Friends” is a common theme once you hit your late 20s. During your growing years, you may lose friends or go in and out of different phases with certain friends. However, by your late 20’s you think that the friends who are there, are the ones who are going to last a lifetime. At least that was my thinking.

As you grow, your vibration will continue to rise and may differ from those who were once close to you. And at that point, the Universe (you) naturally does its thing. Separating you from lower frequencies and connecting you to more vibrational matches.

For example: When a developing woman no longer embodies the low vibrational energy to attract men on the lower frequencies, she will then rise to a place where she will only see or start seeing, more men who are of the quality that she truly desires.

Everything is about energy and the world that you are experiencing, is a vibrational match to the exact energy that you are exemplifying.

Since “losing friends” is an inevitable part of growth on your journey there are certain mindsets that I believe you should adopt. Instead of believing that you lost a friend, believe that you gained insight and received a shift.

This will only happen if you learn

How To Lovingly Release People.

The last friendship that I released, I literally used these exact words “I lovingly release you”.

You must remember that all relationships including your friendships are a reflection of yourself. Again, you are currently attracting the energy or currently rising above it. Either way, as a conscious being it is not of truth to go from truly loving someone to automatically hating them.

If your “love” has an opposite, then it is not love but a strong ego-need for a more complete and deeper sense of self, a need that the other person temporily meets. It is the ego’s substitue for salvation and for a short time it almost does feel like salvation. Chapter 8 Enlightened Relationships pgs.151-152 “The Power of Now” -Eckhart Tolle

After a fallout, separation, or whatever you want to call it, if you loved that person then you should release them with love. If all of a sudden, the love you had for the person turns into you gossiping about them or attempting to sabotage them, then it was never 100% genuine in the first place.

On our journey to evolving consciousness, we no longer have to have dramatic fallouts, we can simply RELEASE THEM WITH LOVE- THE DOPEST BLOGGER ALIVE

After my brother transitioned from this physical plane and while preparing to marry my now husband, I was not expecting to let go of any friends. We are not in charge of when it’s time to let people go. Releasing people is a spiritual practice. So you must do it in a way that serves you rather than hindering you.

Personally, the friend I released was one of my closest friends with whom I have been connected with since my college days. She was more like family than a friend. Even though the situation was very hurtful for me at the time, I could only send love to her vibrationally cause that’s all I had/have to give. Even more so, from being in a sensitive place from my brother’s transformation, God told me it was time to release her with love.

As you know, I love to give action steps on the advice I give. These particular action steps are new ways of thinking. So here it goes. (This information applies to family, associates, etc.)

3 Ways To Lovingly Release Someone

  1. Letting people, things, and situations go is a natural part of our life cycle.

We have to learn to release all attachments that we have in life period. Our life should operate pretty identically to how our bodies operate. (A really deep book that explains this in depth is Deepak Chopra’s Book of Secrets.) Imagine if our bodies held on to everything that we absorbed, never letting things go. We would be at the least constipated and mentally ill. Your bowel system and your mind have to move freely for your health.

Affirmations:

I easily go with the natural flow of the universe.

I accept the now and I fully live in the now.

I learn valuable lessons from all of my past and current relationships.

That relationship was an experience and I detach from the outcome.

2. When you are against something you are against yourself and against the entire universe.

I can’t remember who exactly I learned this from but almost all of the OG spiritual teachers have said this in one way or another. Simply speaking the negative feelings you are harboring against another won’t serve you. And since others are reflections of yourself those negative feelings are against yourself. It makes perfect sense when you break it down. It’s the same thing as you get back what you put out. Why should you get out of alignment because of something that is no longer natural in your universe? Specifically, speaking why should you be out of alignment with a relationship that you’ve energetically outgrown? Release it.

Action step: When you naturally think of them send them love.

There was a habit created when you communicated with this person daily or however so often. So of course you will naturally think of them at times. If you have love to give, send it to them vibrationally. At the very least, when thoughts come up send love to yourself.

Affirmations:

I am thankful for those who are meant to be with me in the now and I lovingly release all friendships/relationships that are no longer a vibrational match to me.

Change is inevitable, I embrace change with joy and ease.

3. Level Up Your Friendship with Yourself i.e. Be Your Own Bestfriend

It’s a known history that when a women breaks up with her man, she starts glowing the fuck up quickly. That’s because most of the time we deal with our real emotions and then we start loving ourselves and having time for ourselves. Well, that’s the same for any relationship.

We all know that at the end of the day, it is you and you alone who think the thoughts that are in your head. We also know that we were born alone and that is how we will transition. So it is time to be your own best friend. Let the relationship with yourself take your number one spot and then all the other relationships will be vibrational matches to your energy.

Affirmations:

I love spending time alone.

When I am in silence truth is revealed and I learn so much about myself.

I always prioritize my relationship with myself.

I fill myself up with love and it is easy to spread the love to others.

Going back to the title of this blog, you CAN INCREASE YOUR SELF-LOVE after releasing any relationship if you do the work to shift your mind. There is no need to suffer especially since life will remove any attachments that we cling to anyway.

Love Always,

The Juicy Book Club ft. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws of Success is a book that I revisit often. I actually have the application of each law on my vision board. It is a 37-page book but it is a book of comprehension and not of completion. Meaning, you shouldn’t just read it and throw it back on your dusty bookshelf with all the other books that you have read but not applied. The spiritual laws that are discussed in the book are universal laws that are timeless; they are always relevant now.

I have tested these laws out myself. I have also done Deepak’s Seven Spiritual Laws of Success 21-day meditation on youtube. (HIGHLY RECOMMENDED) In 2019, I grabbed a few of my friends to undergo a 7-week study, evaluating a different law each week. It was very exhilarating and expanded the minds of many others.

This particular post is about the second law, The Law of Giving.

“This law could also be called the Law of Giving and Receiving because the universe operates through dynamic exchange.”-Deepak Chopra

Without further ado let’s get into the Law of Giving with The Juicy Book Club.

The Juicy Book Club will be reviewing a new book soon. If you want to be a part of the Juicy Book Club make sure you subscribe to the blog with your email. Also like, comment, and subscribe to my youtube channel.

-Love Always, The Dopest Blogger Alive

Release Self Limitations That YOU Put On Your Dreams

Being overwhelmed mentally and thinking that I had to keep up with society’s standards of blogging have kept me away from my love which is blogging. But now I am wise enough to know that (excuse my language) I can do whatever the fuck I want to do. I don’t have to post a blog post every single week or every month if I don’t have the mental energy for it. Me dropping a blog post is like one of your favorite artists dropping an album because most of my posts resonate with your consciousness. Because this has been a constant inner battle for a while, I completely withdrew my energy and that is not fair to me or to the people who really need my energy. When I blog, I feel free af and I can honestly say that although I have found my inner happiness from doing my inner work over the years, I haven’t really felt as free as I did when I was blogging. Freedom is one of the main themes of my life.

I won’t promise that I will abide by societal standards of blogging but I can say that I’m happy to be here in the now with you. I AM a CONSCIOUS BLOGGER. Two things were certain when I started TJE, my love for music, specifically underground music, and my spiritual journey to higher consciousness. I never really established or solidified that TJE was a conscious blog but if I review the past, that’s exactly what it is. That’s what I’ve been on since the beginning. One of the very first posts that I wrote about, was the secret and the law of attraction and that was in 2011 when many were not hip to it. The way I wrote my interview questions was all geared towards elevating consciousness. Because I created TJE for my inner freedom and for the love of blogging/ writing I never knew to make FREEDOM my niche. I’ve been hoarding D.O.P.E. blog topics, inspiring photos, and life-changing experiments because at times I have been mentally overwhelmed.

“Swear that’s my dream, but he too blind to see that
If you doin’ what he love in his freetime
Then his dream already happened” -Big Sean “Everything That’s Missing

I never once in my head gave up on TJE but I had the false belief that life would slow down for me so that I would be able to blog more. I now know that I have to create the time and space for blogging. So if you have a dream or certain desires the time is now. Start working on it when you feel aligned. Don’t worry about the fact that you can’t finish it right now. Don’t worry about the fact that you only gave one hour to your dream today. You have to build up the momentum for creating time and space for your inner desires. You may think that you are living your dream once the milli hits the bank account or once you go viral but living your dream is living in the now on your journey. 

So RELEASE any and all SELF-limitations that YOU put on your DREAMS.

I have. I did.

I AM FREE.

-Love Always The Dopest Blogger Alive

 
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KVTheWriter Drops New Album “Unplugged”

KvTheWriter is a St.Louis artist on the rise with an artistic expression that creates an automatic buzz every time she drops new art. From writing poetry and raps since a child, KV is no stranger to expression. She first appeared on The Juicy Expressions very own “We Hustle Cypher” as a poet before she was an actual artist. KV uses her music to help her heal through trauma from losing both her dad and brother to gun violence in St.Louis.

I sat down with KvTheWriter to discuss her new album “Unplugged” in detail. Check out the interview below and support her journey. There are many ways to support this independent artist. Kv is a published author so you can purchase her poem book “Of Magic and Madness“. You can also go to KVTHEWRITER.COM to purchase Unplugged directly.

My favorite track on this album is “Stormy Waters” because it discusses dealing with uncertainty through troubled times. That’s something that many of us can relate to. Watch the interview below and comment your favorite track on the album.

The Dopest Blogger Alive X KVTHEWRITER

@thedopestbloggeralive @Kvthewriter

Do You Treat Yourself How You Want Others To Treat You?

 

I began treating myself how I wanted to be perceived and the world had no choice but to follow suit. -The Dopest Blogger Alive

How nice are you towards yourself? Do you criticize yourself daily or do you often tell yourself that you are doing a wonderful job? Growing up it is likely that you have heard the statement “Treat others how you want to be treated”. I am a supporter of this wise saying but I also believe in the opposite, “Treat yourself how you want others to treat you”.

Answer this question, “how have you been treating yourself”?

When you criticize yourself you attract criticism from others. But when you provide self-approval you will attract praise from others. So many people desire to be loved by others but they are depriving themselves of unconditional self-love. There are people who want others to forgive them of the wrongdoings that they have caused others, but those people haven’t forgiven them self first.

Several people aspire for others to treat them with high respect but those same people allow and treat their self with disrespect. I hear a lot of women talking about how they want a man to view them as a queen or Goddess but some of those same women view their self as not enough, looking through the eyes of lack. Alternatively, there are a lot of men who say they want a “real” women but their inner makeup isn’t filled with “real” matter. Like are you prepared to stop your characteristic trait of dishonesty to even realistically co-exist with a real woman?

Let me get back to the point LOL.

Is it really logical for us to expect others to hold us up in high regards when we are continuously vibrating in the lower playing field?

If you are not treating yourself how you want others to treat you, then you are being a contradiction. It is not someone else’s job to give you self-esteem. Self-esteem can only be achieved through the practice of loving SELF unconditionally. It is your job to view yourself how you desire to be. You have control over the way others treat you but you must begin with focusing ONLY on yourself.

Here are 3 efficient ways to enhance your self-appreciation:

1.  Release the need to judge yourself

This may be a difficult thing to do at first because you were probably raised to be hard on yourself. However, understand the difference between discipline and self-downing. (Major Difference) Don’t judge your self for anything that you do because it is counterproductive and it will only make you feel worst. Acknowledge those things that you are doing that you don’t like only for awareness because if you are conscious of them it is likely that you will not intentionally do it again. If you are continuing to do things that you know is not good for you that’s because you have not yet learned the lesson that you are supposed to learn. Trust me you will learn it eventually. But the point here is DON’T JUDGE.

2.  Visualize and Create

Visualizing and creating is pretty much the same thing because when you are visualizing something whether it is positive or negative you are creating. Since you are now aware of this, use visualization to your advantage! Take a few minutes each day to visualize the exact life that you want. Visualize how you want to be perceived in this world. Visualize more love around you. Visualize yourself living your best life! Whatever it is that you want start visualizing it now. You can also do this in others ways including drawing out pictures, dressing up and taking pictures in front of the company that you desire to work for, sitting outside of the exact house that you want to buy etc. Make your visualization process a fun one and start watching your visions unfold before your eyes. Remember you have to be that which you want to become!

3. Self Praise

I think all 3 of these tips are super lit but this tip right here tho  #LIT!!!!!! Go super hard for your self!!!!!!! Self-praise is the best praise! Do those mirror talks and speak words of beauty to yourself. Tell yourself daily that you are doing a great job! When something upsetting happens, be nice to yourself about it. Be your own best friend! Make a habit of giving yourself great energy and your resilience will strengthen. Don’t wait for others to appreciate you start appreciating yourself and the others will fall in line! Think of yourself as a seed. Choose exactly where you want to be planted but most importantly feed yourself with patience and sunlight. As you begin to blossom into a beautiful flower please remember that flowers do not compete to grow or exist. They find their sunlight and even share the water for nourishment. They always find ways to shine.

So my final question to you is, “Are you treating yourself how you want others to treat you?” If the answer to this question is no, acknowledge it and begin where you are now to make the appropriate changes. You will find that once you begin implementing those new changes other people will start treating you accordingly and its because they will have no choice. When you begin vibrating higher you will attract people on the same playing field. Love you all.