Have you ever been that girl who was being faithful to a man that haven’t committed to you? If not, you at least had that one friend who was in a one sided committed relationship with a man that made it clear they were not together, or with a man who was already in a “committed relationship” with another woman. However, why and how is it that we as women sometimes end up in these twisted circumstances? Based on an example from my own experience, I remember walking past a guy I was dating while he was with his girlfriend and he did not even give me eye contact or recognize my presence. To make matters worst there were people around that knew of the relationship that me and this gentleman shared. I heard some of these people laugh and snickle at the shamed look on my face and I swore never again would I put myself in such a compromising situation. With that being said, there are still women who are being humiliated and left to wallow in shame as they attempt to bandage there self-inflicted emotional wounds. They are consistently ending up in these unfortunate situations.
Whatever the case maybe, my question is why do some women feel the need to be FAITHFUL to a man who is already with someone, or who has made it clear that he is not looking to be in a relationship? Especially, after you have already experienced the end result of side chick status or giving a man your undeniable all who refuses to even consider commitment. Simultaneously, I have noticed that a lot of men expect this role to be played by most women. Some men can’t handle that while you are dating them you may have other suitors that you are getting to know as well. Why do some women find it invigorating to be faithful to a man they are not in a relationship with? Why are some men uncomfortable with women dating other men at the same time they are dating other women or perhaps in a relationship?
I haven’t been in this exact situation but I have been in a situationship so I can sort of relate. I think when women are faithful to men that they know are not the one or know he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, they are hoping for things to change. However, women need to accept the now and stop wishful thinking! You cant change a mans decision! If he is upfront letting you know what it is and that’s not what you want walk away. If a woman truly doesn’t care and only with him because she is enjoying what they bring to each other and that’s it then that’s fine. But normally that’s not the case. Women want relationships 9 times out of 10 so my advice is attract what you want. Don’t put up with what you don’t want because that will never lead to what you do want.
And for the men who are in relationships but are jealous of their side chicks having other fun with other men are just plain ol selfish and jealous. That is a dumb double standard and I would never stand for that. It puzzles me how a married man with children can get mad at his girlfriend on the side for going on a date with another man. That’s foolishness. But a man will only do what a woman will allow! So women stop allowing these men to treat you any type of way. #thedopestbloggeralive
This double standard has always confused me and caused a SMH. Ive nvr been one to subscribe to those double standards and refuse to be confined to mysoginist expectations. I actually am facing the opposite predicament currently tho…. i wonder if the guys who do it to the females feel as bad about it as i do lol
This goes for men and women. I think it’s just that some ppl choose to play games and some ppl choose to be up front. The problem occurs when one is clear they want a relationship and the other is on the fense. Basically the first initial conversations have to be what do you want out of this. If her answer don’t match with yours then this ain’t the one!!
Yes I have been faithful to a man who wasn’t faithful to me. Sad thing is this happens even in a relationship so a title is not even sufficient. You must have an agreement and a title and mutual respect for one another that you would not go behind their back. Would you go behind a friend or family members back?
I agree with you lena because a guy can say he’s committed to you but behind your back he could be cheating. and if you stay with him then that would be considered being faithful to a man who isn’t faithful to you.
I can’t be faithful to someone who isn’t faithful to me. An eye for an eye and a lick for a lick is my motto. Why spend the extra tune and energy in someone who feels you are not worth it