The marriage rate amongst African Americans is the lowest out of every other race in the United States. According to Joy Jones in her article, “Marriage is for white people” Joy states that, “In 2001, according to the U.S. Census, 43.3 percent of black men and 41.9 percent of black women in America had never been married, in contrast to 27.4 percent and 20.7 percent respectively for whites. With these statistics at such an alarming rate the question now is….What do a sistah have to do, or needs to STOP doing in order to be considered marriage material? Perhaps one solution to the problem would be for black women to start exercising some self-control when it comes to having children and living with a man. I think we as black women often make the mistake of giving too much to a man before it’s time. For example, if you live with a man, have all his babies, wash his clothes, pack his lunch, and cook his dinner EVERY NIGHT before he even considers proposing to you…what is there for the man to look forward to when he actually does marry you? Why would a man want to go to the next level with you, when he has already unofficially experienced that sector of life with you? What’s your opinion? Express it!!
Are you into Fashion blogs? Well here is a girl who is almost famous just from starting a simple blog spot and Youtube channel. In 2008 she left the US Army and returned to sunny California to attend fashion school. She moved in with her boyfriendand she also began blogging. About three years later she became a newlywed and a new mother to a baby boy. On her blog she shows her outfits of the day and her recent fashion purchases. On youtube she does everything from tutorials to clothes, shoes and makeup hauls. It’s pure entertainment for us fashion fanatics! So follow her on twitter and subscribe to her youtube page.
I loved the VMA’s especially the part about Beyonce and her new gift. Beyonce is pregant ya’ll and I know that her baby will beautiful! Hopefully now she will finally get some rest but I know this workaholic will be back at it shortly after her baby is born lol.
This is important advice I can give to people. Playing your role is key because as soon as you get out of character things will start to mess up. For example If you start a relationship with a married man meaning you’re the alleged mistress, that is what you’re supposed to be. So asking questions like when are you going to leave her for me is out of order. Why would he leave his wife for you, when he knows that you don’t require much but sex on the down low? If you want to be someones one and only then you should engage in an honest relationship. Most women on the side think that the man is cheating because there is a lack in his main woman. Although that may be the case in certain situations but mostly a man cheat because he is a cheater. Sometimes it has nothing to do with his wife/girlfriend. Just because he cheats with you doesn’t mean that you’re better than her. So if you’re going to be to be a side chick, mistress, or jump-off do it knowing the truth. You will get out of life what you put in. If you want to be his only woman, you will have a better chance of having just that by entering an honest relationship. You can’t expect to get something you want by doing what you don’t want. I am not judging anyone. Everyone has their own choice in this universe but If you’re going to engage in sneaky activities play your role. Things will go well until you jump out of character doing things like calling his house when you know the wife is there. Don’t feel better than the wife because in all actuality you’re still not the wife. You’re really a non motherf***** factor lol There is a 90% chance that he may never leave his wife for you. The best thing you can do is have your own man. Regina king played Margie Hendricks on the movie Ray starring Jamie Foxx. She was Ray’s jump-off on the road and his wife at home was Della Bee. Things were balanced for Ray at first, he had a wife at home and a woman on the road it wasn’t until Margie jumped out of her role calling his crib and acting out. Okay readers don’t think I’m encouraging cheating because I’m not again im just saying don’t be naïve. Margie wanted to be Mrs. Ray Charles but she should of known that he would never drop his wife. If she wanted to be with Ray then she should of just made him her side man like he made her the side woman or she could of told him her demands and if he did not abide then she could of moved on but instead she settled for being the jumpoff.
“Come on ma, you know I got a wife
and even though that pussy tight I’m not gon’ jeapordize my life (aight?)
So what is it you want from a n****?” (WHAT?)-DMX/What these b****es Want
(Those lyrics just prove no matter how much you “putting it down” on the man he still won’t leave his main.)
” I aint gotta put a band on your finger
Or worry about you tellin’ the whole world I’m your man while on Springer.
At first you were somethin i denied
Something I would slide
Just do somethin in the ride
But shorty
Theres something that you provide
Cause the entre ain’t as good without something on the side ya’ know.”- Fabolous/Cant let you go
(Those lyrics are speaking of a girl who played her role. Playing her role didn’t cause much drama but he still never left his wife and never thought about giving her a wedding band because she didn’t require it.)
So tell me your thoughts do you agree with me or disagree? What is your choice do you choose to settle or are you going to require what you think you deserve. Express it!
I am absolutely in LOVE with his first video, “Till The End Of Time”
Timothy Bloom has turned heads all over the country including those already established in the music world. The video features him and his screen mate V. Bozeman nude which to me is beautiful black art. The song is a epic picture of love and it brings tears to many women at first listen. Timothy is a singer, songwriter, musician, and producer so he is very much aware of the music game. Guitar, drums, bass, and piano are the some of the instruments that he plays. Bloom is not a rookie because he traveled to Germany after he graduated high school to follow his music career. Not to mention he is a son of a pastor and grew up in the church around music. Big names like Timberland and Keri Hilson have publicly vouched for him saying that they love his music. He has been seen on tour in Las Vegas, Los Angeles, New Orleans, etc. He also appeared on 106 and Parkn and The B.E.T. Awards representing the Music Matters section. I have seen many of Timothy’s live performances and it is EPIC every time. I bought his EP titled “The Budding Rose” on iTunes and I love every song. It also comes with the video that jump started his career in the U.S. (‘Till the end of time, mentioned above). If I had to pick a favorite song besides the premier single, I would pick Tabitha it’s a love song that gives me goose bumps every time I hear it. I haven’t had a favorite artist in a long time (not since my pre-teen days of B2K) and he has filled that void. Go listen to the song and watch the video and tell me what you think! Juicy or Dry?? My vote: Extremely Juicy!!!
