As you all know I attend Jackson State University a historically black University. I love my university because it is filled with all kinds of people with different personalities. Some of those people are who we would call haters. My definition of a hater is a person who doesn’t see any good bringing negativity towards a situation. I would like to speak about a situation called Hating off top. Hating off top is when you are hating someone just to hate, not knowing any background information on them. I feel that everyone has their own beauty they just need to recognize it. Therefore there is no need to hate against another. If you are beautiful and content with yourself then it shouldn’t hurt you to bless another person with a compliment. I’ve been observing my peers from my school. From my observations most people don’t speak to new people at all or they do if it is for their benefit. Men will at least nod and say was up if they cross another man in their path. But most likely women won’t say anything to another woman. Unknown men and women are more welcoming but that’s probably because they’re sexually attracted to each other. But if a good looking unknown female walks in a room at a party she will automatically get mean looks from the females that are already there. She is being hated off top. Why is that? I feel that people believe that if they compliment someone else it would be taking away from their own beauty. But you shouldn’t feel that way. If you are “bad” then you should be able to compliment anybody without feeling less of yourself. Beyonce is one of the baddest chicks I admire in the game and if I ever seen her on the streets I would let her know that. I always compliment another female when I feel that credit is due.
Sometimes they respond with a smile and a thank you but other times I get a weird look and a thank you. Most girls are caught off guard by a compliment from another girl because they’re not used to it. I would like for women as a whole to get it together. Is this a self-esteem issue? Or are people that evil not to spread love with compliments? Whatever it is, there is a change to be made and it starts with you. When you see a person looking fly feel free to bless them. Compliments go a far way. You never know how much you could change somebody’s life with a simple compliment. Remember that this is a reflection of how you really feel about yourself. So the next “ugly” person that you think you see is really yourself in that person, your flaws, unwanted pounds, unwanted pimples, and unwanted scars. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, if you don’t want to pass compliments to another that’s fine also. Just release the need to criticize others. If you don’t have anything nice to say then you shouldn’t say anything at all. Express It!!!!
-Juicy Peach
