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Emotional vs Physical Cheating

I’m changing it up guys, for those who keep up with us you know I usually express my thoughts on current events going on in the news but this topic has been weighing on my mind. What is worse physically or emotionally cheating on your partner? Or can we even define emotional ties as cheating? For instance I’m friends with a guy in a relationship and while we have never done anything close to “cheating” I mean nothing not even hung out just the 2 of us, lately our conversations have taken a very flirtatious turn. We laugh & joke like always and the jokes have started to take a kinky turn, deep convos more personal, more “I’m thinking about you” texts etc. point blank I can see the emotions beginning, while technically nothing is wrong I often think to myself “If I was his gf I wouldn’t like these texts”. Am I wrong? Is he wrong? What’s worse the physical stuff or knowing someone else is filling your shoes with the simple things like putting a smile on their face, making them laugh, cheering them up? At this moment I’m single but I remember when my relationship was headed south I too made an emotional bond with someone else. That person truly supplied everything I was missing in my relationship. We all know it but people still seem to forget SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING….and if that’s true sex outside a relationship isn’t either then.  While cuddled with one, my mind could only think about him who never even kissed me, held me close during a movie just simply listened & made me smile. Well I did a little reading and I would’nt be me without hitting you with the stats! The technical name for this is an “Emotional Affair” and according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married men have had sexual affairs. 20 percent of married couples out of this national survey have experienced emotional infidelity. I’m sure those numbers are higher for us non-married couples out here. So let me know, have you ever had an emotional affair? Is physical cheating worse than emotional? Express it?

-Sunny D

Troy Davis

Tonight at 7pm Troy Davis will be executed. Since 1989 Davis has become one of the most famous people on Death Row, why? Well despite a lack of physical evidence, no murder weapon ever being found 7 out of the 9 witnesses recanting  or contradicting their testimony his execution is still going as planned. I hate to do it but I’m going to pull the “race card”. Davis, a black man was convicted of the murder of a Savannah, Georgia police officer.  The murder weapon wasn’t found but ballistics were traced to another shooting that Davis would also be charged with. Many people are angry even wanted Obama to intervene but Obama as president does not have the authority to do so due to state laws. Capital punishment is so controversial. Who are we to kill someone and what about those who are innocent? It just isn’t fair if you ask me. Davis has “dodged” execution since 2001 with different Supreme Court hearings and appeals but the fight is over. Coming after the famous Casey Anthony trial its baffling to see how in one case a white woman with overwhelming evidence walks free while a black man is killed. This reminds me so much of the movie Chicago….wait hear me out. All of the women in jail for murder were honestly guilty except for one woman! Ironically she was the only one put to death while the guilty women went free due to their play on “hyping” up their case playing the role. This is bigger than Troy Davis it’s a matter of Capital Punishment right or wrong?

-Sunny D

Why Don’t All Men Date?

Now Fellas ya’ll gone have to help me out with this one because I simply don’t understand. As a 21 year old woman I think that it is out of order to just take me to your crib when we first meet. Taking a girl to the crib to just “chill” lets the girl know that you don’t date and you only want to have sex. (even if that’s not the case) I cant speak for all women but most of the women my age desires to be dated. It’s okay for us to chill at the house sometimes but that’s after a few dates. Money is not an excuse either because there are plenty of free dates for you to take her on, you just have to get creative. You can take her to a museum, to the park for a picnic, or even to the court for a basketball game. It just depends on her likes. If a man takes me to the track on a date, I’m going to be excited. I may feel a little of a challenge because I’m out of shape but I will still appreciate that he’s contributing to me getting back in shape. There’s so much to dating than the regular expected things.

For the men who just want to have sex, 9 times out of 10 if you want to have sex with her she’s interested too. But it’s all about your approach. Women still want to feel special whether they are having sex with you or not. For example Eddie Murphey on Boomerang smashed most of his girls on the first day and he only smashed them once and quit it. Although he knew it may be this once he still dated them for that one day. lol Now I’m not saying that you only have to date a girl one day and you will be able to have sex with her. That just depends on the female. But what I am saying is that men need to upgrade on the dating tip. You should be able to give without expecting something back. The more you give the more you will receive. If you are dating her, spending time and just being yourself, you will receive everything you want from her anyways. (again just depends on the person)  If in the future a man approaches me and asks me to come over his crib I will politely tell him no because “chilling” in place of a date is a high school mindset. Why don’t all men date? Is chilling acceptable for the first date? Express It!!

-Juicy Peach

9/27 Cole World

J.Cole’s first album Cole World:The Sideline Story will be released on September 27, 2011. There is a lot of pressure on him from the media because they believe that his album is way overdue. I personally believe that he is releasing it at a good time because with his dope mix-tape “Friday Night Lights” and his new singles “Work Out” and “Cant Get Enough” ft. Trey Songs, he now has the buzz that he needs to sell his album. When a project is not ready its better to take your time with it rather than rushing it. Rushing will cause the ending result to be a fail. I will be one of the first ones with this album blogging about every track!  I am a huge J.Cole fan. Below is his latest video “Cant Get Enough” premiered on MTV2 on September 14.

 

-Juicy Peach

The REAL author of the Matrix is a Black Woman

This news has been buzzing on the underground for some years now. But of course this information is not really in the public. Sophia Stewart wrote and copyrighted a document called the Third Eye in the 1980’s. She presented an idea for a movie to Warner Brothers but they gave her the run around and nothing was conclusive. Not too long after this the contents of her book was stolen by the creators of the Terminator which created a 5 billion dollar franchise. Years later we are introduced to the Matrix. Her copyrighted material has been used illegally to create this other 5 billion dollar empire that she did not get a dime of. Not only has she not been paid but most importantly she has not been recognized as the author and the creator of this. The FBI informed her of the Terminator and then she later saw the Matrix so she took action. I believe that her lawsuit began in 2005 and is still not finished today. Big companies steal movies all the time and then pay off the writer with a gag deal (meaning they cannot say anything about the settlement or the issue). They offered Ms. Stewart a deal like this after the FBI told her about the Terminator but she declined. They make a lot of money this way and they don’t care about what it does to people or their lives. The Matrix was such a big movie that it couldn’t stay under the radar. This is why she chose not to settle. She created the first Matrix and they tried to create the second and third Matrix like it but it went far from the first. The concepts and the messages of the movies were different from the first. She is currently making another Matrix and I’m interested to see what it will be like. It will be similar to the first in the sense that there is no beginning and no end to life. It was her intentions to create the first science fiction movie with black superheroes that are fighting against the enemy, the machines. She also created herself as a character in her book as “The Oracle”. Her story amazes me and it is very interesting. She is known as a master writer and is extremely smart. She skipped high school and went straight to college and got a degree in journalism and got a minor in law. She has been doing taxes since she was twelve years old and was a prolific reader since she was six years old. I will be buying her book “The Third Eye” so that I can see first-hand what is really going on. If you want to find out more about this topic, do your research. So, how much do you think they should pay her? Also, how do you think they should apologize and acknowledge her for her work?

 

-Bubblegum