There are a lot of up and coming _____ (you fill in the blank). Everyone wants recognition and praise for their talents or hard work that they do. In order to receive the recognition you must be willing to put in the work! “Faith Without Works is Dead” James 2:14-26 (NKJV). Once the work effort is consistent, you have to fall back on faith and trust that it will bring you everything that you are looking for. You must also remember your main reason for doing something.

The reason why I blog is to have a voice and because I love the idea of expression. So even if only one person reads my post I am thankful. It would be silly for me to go around begging others to support me. Promotion is one thing but if you are going around begging others to support you and then getting mad because they don’t, then you are doing things for the wrong reasons. When you are begging, you are giving off the energy of lack. You have to first support yourself and believe in your idea 100% in order to gain the belief of others.  You may receive recognition and fame from what you do but it should not be your sole purpose for doing it.

Remember to do what you want to do during your time on this earth. The whole point is to live YOUR life. The only person that can truly get in your way is you. Once you focus on ONLY the things you desire…your support will come storming in at full momentum. 🙂

We have all heard the saying that “There is no such thing as a perfect man.” With that being said where can a Sistah find her median in this arena of dating? Where is that guy who keeps a junky room, drinks out the juice carton, still has a job, car, and an education? He may have his own apartment or be sharing with a roommate. Where is that guy who didn’t go to college but still values education and went to Trade school instead? I suppose my concern is knowing the set of expectations ladies should expect from a guy before she sets off the “standard-o-meter”. With that thought in question it is equally important to realize that many black men feel that black women have standards that are too high.
In an interview with Slim Thug posted on Vibe.com back in 2010, Slim Thug stated that, “Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be f***ing with me about it saying, “Y’all gotta go through all that sh** [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other sh**”

In my opinion I believe that a woman should never hold a man to a set of standards that she cannot and will not ever attempt to reach. For instance it may not be fair that a woman refuses to date a guy without kids when she has a soccer team at home, or perhaps a woman refusing to date a guy without a car when she has been catching the bus her entire life. Lastly, a woman that preaches she doesn’t date broke men or men without a job when she herself is a welfare queen whom has only held a summer job at McDonalds once in her life. Moreover, there is only so much that a woman can put up with when she is in the process of building herself. Because a potential partner who hasn’t been developing themselves educationally, economically, and emotionally can be a mental and physical strain. Given these points one must ask what are a fair set of expectations that a woman should look for in a man while also avoiding the title of a woman whose standards are too high?