With the bitter sweet taste of a declining job market and an un-trust worthy economy to wash it all down with, the growing number of American’s living together should come as no surprise. However, out of the thousands of people who have moved in together in order to make ends meet, how many of those people are couples that are in sour, unhappy relationships and want a way out? These days it seems that I can’t skip a week without hearing someone cry and complain about the disgust and dislike they have for their significant other. And at the end of each rant my question to them remains the same, “why don’t you leave if your that miserable?” and that is when a cold bucket of “wells, buts, it’s, rent, the lease, kids, and my house’s” gets dumped over my head. The fact that they want to make it work because they love the person is hardly ever the top priority of why they choose to stay with their partner. I Sometimes wonder how things would be if the cost of living were cheaper and the economy were full of job opportunities. Would there be more single men and women living on their own? And without convenience being an issue would true love be easier to identify, and more trust worthy to believe in? Whatever the answer may be to those what If questions, my real question is how do you know if the partner your with really loves you or if the foundation that your relationship stands on is built more so on convenience?
-Green Apple
The only way you will know is by using your feelings and your knowledge. If it feels real it probably is real and if it feels fake it probably is fake! If you both would do anything for each other then that’s a good sign. If you both only do what’s convenient then it may not be real it may be lust.
I agree with Brian. Mostly, if it feels real it is real. That kind of situation does not stir up over night. 9 times out of 10 if you feel like your’re trapped in a relationship with every excuse other than love, then you might want to rethink the alternatives and work on gathering enough money and courage to leave.
I believe actions will always reveal someobes intentions. If its love they will exude love no matter how rich or poor people are. Dont forget there are plenty of rich miserable stuck couples too! You can always tell if someone rrally cares bc they actions will show it.
Speaking from example, horrible ideal to shack up with somebody for convenience. Money always plays a toll in the downfall of that kinda relationship.
Yes i agree. I personally witnessed someone i love go through this. That is one of the worst ideas ever.. everyday is another argument. I couldn’t do it! If it was real love there would definitely be more compromising on both ends to get and save more money ‘together’ rather than placing blame on eachother and arguing every other day.
If the cost of living was less expensive there would be broken homes 10 per every street. Money does play a factor but leaving is not always the answer. Many ethnic groups share homes for the betterment of everyone involved. What we need to do as individuals is develop better business plans. Success can be attained by living in the same home or separately.
I agree when ir feels real it is. When people try to make things work because of kids and other reasons it never works.
I think that if everyone was financially stable then there would be a lot of people single and staying alone. I witness people everyday shacking up. Its honestly time to grow up don’t be with someone just because of convenience, be with them because you really love them. But to answer your question green apple you will know because your instincts will tell you whether a person really loves you a not. listen to your inner voice. people may choose to ignore it but I believe everybody has a inner voice that lets them know what’s good and what’s not.