As you all know I attend Jackson State University a historically black University. I love my university because it is filled with all kinds of people with different personalities. Some of those people are who we would call haters. My definition of a hater is a person who doesn’t see any good bringing negativity towards a situation. I would like to speak about a situation called Hating off top. Hating off top is when you are hating someone just to hate, not knowing any background information on them. I feel that everyone has their own beauty they just need to recognize it. Therefore there is no need to hate against another. If you are beautiful and content with yourself then it shouldn’t hurt you to bless another person with a compliment. I’ve been observing my peers from my school. From my observations most people don’t speak to new people at all or they do if it is for their benefit. Men will at least nod and say was up if they cross another man in their path. But most likely women won’t say anything to another woman. Unknown men and women are more welcoming but that’s probably because they’re sexually attracted to each other. But if a good looking unknown female walks in a room at a party she will automatically get mean looks from the females that are already there. She is being hated off top. Why is that? I feel that people believe that if they compliment someone else it would be taking away from their own beauty. But you shouldn’t feel that way. If you are “bad” then you should be able to compliment anybody without feeling less of yourself. Beyonce is one of the baddest chicks I admire in the game and if I ever seen her on the streets I would let her know that. I always compliment another female when I feel that credit is due.
Sometimes they respond with a smile and a thank you but other times I get a weird look and a thank you. Most girls are caught off guard by a compliment from another girl because they’re not used to it. I would like for women as a whole to get it together. Is this a self-esteem issue? Or are people that evil not to spread love with compliments? Whatever it is, there is a change to be made and it starts with you. When you see a person looking fly feel free to bless them. Compliments go a far way. You never know how much you could change somebody’s life with a simple compliment. Remember that this is a reflection of how you really feel about yourself. So the next “ugly” person that you think you see is really yourself in that person, your flaws, unwanted pounds, unwanted pimples, and unwanted scars. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, if you don’t want to pass compliments to another that’s fine also. Just release the need to criticize others. If you don’t have anything nice to say then you shouldn’t say anything at all. Express It!!!!
-Juicy Peach
This is so true.Just recently I gave a compliment to a girl and she gave me a dry thank you as if she was irritated.Then she quickly turned away from me.I vowed to never give that watch another compliment.But I shouldn’t take it personal at least I sent love her way, so now it will return to me multiplied. This article is
JUICY
This is so true!! I gave a female a compliment and she dryly said thank you and then turned her back to me.I said that I would never give her another one.But I shouldn’t have taken it personal.At least I sent love her way and now it will return to me
This Is definitely true. Women are very territorial, they do feel that if they acknowledge another woman’s beauty they are subtracting from themselves or bowing down to her….it’s kinda weird! To tell the truth I think that I am a beautiful woman and because of this, there are some places that I don’t like to go because I know other women will pre-judge me when i get there. I feel like they see something in me that they wish they could display, so instead of congratulating a sister, they get in their little hate committee’s and say negative things about me. It’s kind of funny to me, but it’s also something that I am getting quite tired of. It also makes me realize that their are a lot of women out here with low self- a-steem. I have been experiencing this at a HIGH VOLUME with women in my HOOD since I have returned home from college. OHHH and walking in to an environment where their are women who have their BOYFRIENDS around is a KILLER for me…those women be looking like they wanna whoop my ass for coming. ha ha ha!
This is wonderful! I compliment ppl all the time and i tell ppl hating is really a compliment BUT tht person cant find it in themselves to say “u look nice i like ur hair…..” and they stare u dwn roll their eyes say “who she think she is?” When the answer to tht is “Im who u think i am, u the one thinkin im all mighty” I get both ends alot of girls compliment me & even ask for my make up & fashion tips…I think thts bc they see me smiling & givin out the love so they feel comfy being nice to me…As far as speaking idk wats w/women! especially dwn south ive noticed noone speaks but in st louis we at least smile
Women are sooo territorial, they are worse than men! What did curren$y say, “Success Is My Cologne.” It’s a self-esteem thing. If you have confidence and postive energy, other people can notice it when you walk in a room just as if you were wearing cologne or perfume. And if that confidence and positivity just happens to be boosted because you look good, get ready for the haters! I don’t be on that stuff, though: I will compliment another woman without a second thought. And if my man is around when an attractive woman walks in the room? Acknowledge her first and make a joke out of it with him, i.e.”I know you looking, I see her too and yes, that’s a bad bitch!”
Great article Peaches. Theres several commenters that say they gave a compliment and got a dry response. If you not used to getting compliments from other women it may be a little awkward. Not sure what its like in Jackson but up here in DC its a lot of undercover sistas so knowing that may make getting a compliment from another chick uncomfortable. Or it could be a cultural thing. When we would visit the south random people walking down the street would say Hi hows it going. I’d say hi back but it was weird because you don’t speak to random strangers in STL.
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