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Block Negativity and Listen To Your Own Voice

After all the stress died down from taking my final exams, I had time to reflect on the negative things that have been said to me from all types of people. Some are people who were dear to my heart and others were people I looked up to.

I must admit that for a small amount of time I did let certain comments effect me but then it hit me like an epiphany! I VOW to no longer take any negative vibes or comments from others personally. The truth is, the negative energy that someone else is throwing out on you is coming from the negativity that’s boiled up inside of them. If someone is doing something to you they are really doing it toward themselves.

During my admission process for law school,  I was told by a mentor that I should choose another career path because my grade point average was too low for any law school to accept me. ( I actually had a decent GPA but it could have been higher but I was involved in a lot of activities during my undergrad studies that shifted my focus but that’s besides the point). My point?  WHY ON EARTH would someone feel the need to say discouraging words to me when I am entitled to pursue my dream. As a mentee you look up to a mentor for guidance and wisdom on your path to achieve your goal.

When I become a mentor for someone I will never say anything that would contribute to move them away from their deep desire. WHO ARE YOU to say what someone will or won’t become? There is a difference between constructive criticism and being a Debbie downer.  This threw me a little to left field because I thought highly of these individuals but then I realized that in all actuality it DOESN’T MATTER at all WHAT SOMEONE ELSE thinks of you. I stayed away from all negative people who gave off bad vibes during my law school process and I continued to focus on everything that I wanted. I received my law school acceptance letter on November 15, 2013, to the school of my choice and I was too geeked!

The people who did not believe or have doubts are the people who second guess everything about their own lives. Those who criticize or judge are also judging their own lives.Example: When you tell someone some great news that just happened to you and they don’t display any excitement or great emotion they may or may be happy for you. That part varies but really THEY ARE NOT happy with their life situation so its hard for them to express their joy for you.

I am so grateful to share that I have successfully finished my first semester of my law school career! No way did I let the thoughts of others stop me from pursuing my goals and reaching them. No way should you let it stop you either. Express a time where someone told you that you would not make it but you overcame the things they doubted. In 2015 continue to block negativity and listen to your own voice. Happy New Year!

Is Dancing in the Club With Another While in a Relationship Acceptable?

Personally I think that people make too much of a deal about this issue. I wouldn’t care if my man was dancing with another girl in the club unless he took things WAY TOO FAR. I would be upset if he was groping the girl in a manner that he was about to have sex with her or if his tongue was down her throat! (in that case we would be discussing the terms of our relationship) If the girl was one of my haters or someone who he knew was trying to interfere with our relationship, then that would be a problem also. But getting twerked on by an innocent girl in the club wouldn’t phase me.

In high school, I dated this boy who absolutely hated the fact of me dancing with other boys at a party. He was never at those parties but would ask during our phone conversations afterwards did I dance with someone. Everyone who knows me can attest to the fact that I love to dance (particularly twerk) at parties. I have never been unfaithful in any relationship and I wasn’t exchanging numbers with the people I was dancing with. A dance normally occurs 60 seconds or less. Asking questions of that nature shows that he was insecure about himself; maybe he thought I would end up with them instead of him. When I asked him what the big deal about me dancing with others were, he mentioned the following:

  • Your butt is too close to another man’s penis
  • Dancing is a similar motion to sex
  • That man will know think that he can have you
  • It’s disrespectful when you are in a relationship

My response to him was:

  • Why are you breaking this subject down so deeply?
  • Dancing is not close to sex at all considering no one is being penetrated and all clothing items are intact.
  • it shouldn’t matter if another man want me or think he can have me because clearly I’m with you
  • It shouldn’t be looked at disrespect when I’m not flaunting in your face, I’m not leading him on, exchanging numbers, or putting myself in a situation to come off as a single girl.

This situation with my ex happened in high school and ironically we both still have the different views on this issue! (good thing we are not still together lol) Things have changed since high school and when I go out now it’s rare that I will twerk on another. However, if I happen to do so I think it will be silly for my man to take it to the heart. If my man went on a trip to Las Vegas I wouldn’t dare ask him if he have partaken in getting twerked on. If that is my biggest worry then clearly I have trust issues and shouldn’t be in a relationship anyways.

Now I am aware that there are levels to this! If your mate is portraying as a single individual in the club then that’s a problem. But if they were only partaking in an innocent dance why cry over it. Here are some ways that a dance wouldn’t be considered innocent:

  •  If they are prolonging the dance and transforming it into something deeper that you should only be doing with your mate.
  • If they are grabbing body parts and whispering sexual statements in the other’s ear.
  • If they are making plans to meet up with this individual after the club is over.
  • If when asked about being in a relationship they don’t answer truthfully.

Okay I have asked others their opinion on this subject and there were some who agreed with my stance and there were others who disagreed. Please comment your view on the acceptance of dancing in the club with another below. If you disagree, answer the following questions for me: Would you end the term of your relationship just on a single dance alone? Do you consider it cheating if your partner dances with another? If your partner was not at the same club as you would you dance with someone else? If you went on a  turn-up trip with your girls/boys and danced with another would you want your partner to take this subject so deeply?

The Infamous Durdy Costello

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When you first hear a song and its jammin what do you do? Well, the first thing I do is research the artist and the producer. The first element that draws me into listening to a new song is how well the beat is mixed. Of course after that, it is the artist’s job to keep my attention with some well intriguing lyrics. Without great producers, music would be lacking an important element.

I became aware of the 27 year old Justin Allison better known as Durdy Costello, by listening to the music from some of the previous artists that I’ve interviewed. It is likely that, most Jackson-based music or artists have at least some connection with the infamous Durdy Costello. Some of the artists he has mixed for includes Doe Hicks, Luck, Young Vegas, J.Skyy, Silas, 4th Quarter, etc.   However, he is not only known locally or state wide. The song “One Time” that he  produced for the artist Doe Hicks premiered on World Star Hip Hop. Durdy Costello, is not new to the music scene. He began in high school making beats and was the dj for most of the school dances.  He currently is one of the DJs for freelons, mbar, and Houston Bar and Grill. Watch the interview I did with him below and comment your thoughts 🙂

Follow: Instagram/Twitter = @DurdyCostello

Contact : [email protected] or go to www.durdycostello.com

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What is Your Deal Breaker in a Relationship?

What is your deal breaker in a relationship? A deal breaker is the thing or things that you will not stand for in a relationship. If those certain things occurred you would end the relationship immediately. I have a couple of deal breakers including cheating and continuous lying. However, the number one deal breaker for me is when a man talks about what he is going to do instead of actually producing actions. That is something that would cause me to stop talking to someone immediately lol! I had the opportunity to ask some people in the community of Jackson, Mississippi  about their personal deal breakers. Watch the video below and comment and tell us your deal breaker in a relationship!!!

 

 

 

Sachmoe Phlanagan a Musician Not a Rapper

  

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 A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to sit down and speak with Sachmoe Phlanagan formely known as Slim Pickett. Sachmoe is a Jackson, Mississippi native who’ve had an interest in music his entire life. Sachmoe seperates himself from other rappers by being a muscian. He grew up listening to the greats including Louis Arm Strong, Lionel Richie, Gladys Knight, etc… and he also played the chello for 12 years. The single “Out the Mud” from his well known mixtape “Black Magic” has created a lot of buzz around the city. I can’t pinpoint where I first heard that song but I found myself already knowing the lyrics to the chrous before I began my research on Sachmoe.  He is currently working on his album “Distinguished” which is due to drop sometime later this year.

Some of Sachmoe’s releases include:

  • “Workshop” ft. Young Dolph (September 2013)
  • “Is It True” (September 2013)
  • Mixtape “Blowin Like Sachmoe” (October 2013)
  • Mixtape “4 Promo Use Only” (October 2013)
  • Mixtape “Black Magic” (January 2014)
  • Mixtape “Black Magic Reloaded” (July 2014)

Sachmoe will be opening up for Rick Ross, Rich Homie Quan, and Young Thug this Saturday for  the Kings Of The South Concert at the Mississippi Colisuem in Jackson Mississippi. Come out and support! I love seeing people receive opportunities like this and things will only expand if he continues to release a powerful  work ethic 🙂

 In this interview I got real deep and personal with Sachmoe asking him questions that every woman desires to know about men. What prevents men from expression? Watch the interview below and express your thoughts!!

Check out Sachmoe below on You Tube, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and on his personal website: Sachmoe Phlanagan – YouTube Sachmoe Phlanagan | Facebook  Black Magic | Sachmoe Phlanagan Sachmoe (fogsachmoe) on Twitter Instagram @Sachmoephlanagan

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