Ladies we have all fantasized about that special day when the love of our life gets down on one knee, pops open that suede box and shows us a gleaming ring as he confesses his love and asks us to be his wife. However, ladies what would you do if the man you were madly in love with proposed to you without a ring? Let’s just say he said something along the lines of, “baby I love you so much and I’m so sure that you’re the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life and for that reason alone I don’t want to wait any longer, I want to marry you tomorrow morning as soon as city hall opens. I know I don’t have a ring for you right now, but I promise that after we get married I’m going to start pulling in some major over time and get you the ring that you want.” Just imagine the man you love sitting there with love in his eyes awaiting your response as he holds your hand anxious for a response. Ladies what do you say? Do you accept the proposal or not and if you do accept the proposal do you tell people your engaged or do you keep it a secret until you have a ring to show? And lastly would you actually feel legitimately engaged if you don’t have a ring?
I personally would never accept a proposal without a ring, I believe that if my man loves me like he says he does he will wait until he can afford a ring and provide me the marriage proposal I deserve. Sadly, I have a female family member who accepted a marriage proposal from a man who claimed that he was going to get her an engagement/wedding ring after they had gotten married, and to make a long story short they stayed married for 9 years and during that time she never got that ring. After getting married, bills, children and other life issues came into play and it seems that her wearing an engagement ring just wasn’t a top priority anymore. In my opinion accepting a marriage proposal or getting married without a ring is a recipe for regret and hostility. WHAT DO YOU THINK, would you accept a marriage proposal without a ring?
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I would NEVER accept a proposal without a ring because that means that I would be accepting less than I deserve! If a man proposes without a ring than he CLEARLY doesn’t have his stuff together! I believe approach is everything. The question is WHY WOULD MEN THINK ITS OKAY. If you’re saying that you can get the ring after you work over time than why cant you propose then? I feel like you cant come incorrect or casual when asking someone to spend the rest of your life with you.
I definitely have a different view on this topic. I was taught that a man who loves you will take care of you and eventually you will get married and then there is the ring! I feel that a ring is not necessary in my case, a person can prove they love you just as much in that one moment when they ask you to marry them, as they can by having a big rock to put on your finger when they ask. Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t turns ring down if it were offered, however it is not a must for me. The ring does symbolize a lot for some people, but the time we spend and the rest of our lives being shared together would symbolize more.
I wouldn’t except without the ring, but some people don’t believe in having rings. In many cases they don’t even wear their wedding bands.
Knowing what I know now, I wouldn’t accept without a ring. I accepted without a ring thinking it was modern and bohemian and romantic to run away and elope, and I regret it to this day. A man saving for the rings is the first step in him proving his financial responsibility. It shows that he is willing to work hard, and make sacrifices, and do whatever it takes to make you happy. If you accept a proposal without a ring, you are setting the standard for the rest of your married life. You are telling him that he only has to do half of what is expected of him.
I understand the views of some who don’t believe in wedding rings, and respect them. But every other culture in the world makes you provide some type of collateral before a marriage to show that you are serious. In India, China, Nigeria, Kenya, and Bali, you have to come off a wardrobe, SEVERAL rings and bangles, some livestock, and have a house set up already before you can marry a woman. In the U.S., if a woman wants a man to show and prove, they are immediately labeled as “gold-diggers.” But when giving herself to a man in marriage, a woman is making a HUGE life change.
Marriage is a contract. You want a bank to enter a 30-year relationship with you so you can buy a house, you have to show them you have SOME money before you sign that mortgage contract. If you want to enter a lifelong relationship with a woman, you need to at least show her a ring before you sign that marriage contract. Feel me?
I really agree with your comment that you have to show some type of commitment before you move forward. I don’t see why men think it’s acceptable
I think rings are nice but shouldn’t be The All. Many people have rings and that’s all, no commitment, and nothing to hod at night but a pillow. I think a ring is nice but you should know your man and trust your instinct on if you can trust him or not.
I’ve accepted without a ring and now today we’re not even together, but i will not just say that accepting without a ring was the worst decision, i’ll say wanting to trust that that certain person would actually go get one later was the worst decision. All men aren’t the same so I cant say another man that proposes without a ring won’t do as he promises but just going through what i went through, i’ma need the ring this time! lol good post!
I have accepted a proposal without a ring and I don’t regret it. rings and jewelry are always nice and always welcomed but at the end of the day that ring is not going to make that man love you any more or any less. that ring is not going to make that man not go see his side piece or stop him from texting or send/ receiving messages or pictures from another woman. at the end of the day a ring is a materiAl thing that ppl get wrapped up in. so if my man said he want the world to know we are married and can’t wait another day than so be it… I can takin and gladly tell you I’m married I don’t need a to.g to advertise that…
A man should want to express his love and what better way than through gorgeous pieces. Nobody wants anything from someone who doesn’t want to give it. The only thing you lost was a trip to the pawn shop to get some compensation from things being over. Congrats to you for moving forward.
This is tuff! But if hes reason is because he wants to get married RIGHT NOW id say no. Not simply because there isnt a ring but bc i want a wedding! I’m very family oriented and would want to share this day with all my loved ones so getting eloped just is a NO. NOW to the ring hmmmm if i was on the same page as wanting be marry him etc i may say something like “yes, ill marry you but not tomorrow, lets plan a wedding and during this time buy me a ring”. I personally wouldnt mind if he went and bought a small ring bc i feel the ring can be upgraded at anytime in the future if thats what we desire. Again this isnt ideal and id much rather he plans the proposal rather than go off impulse but if I HAD to choose hmmmm maybe id say yes
I just recently watched a video on how wedding rings even came into play. It stated that in 1938, a jewelry company just opened up and their advertisement stated that if you love your significant other, then you will go out and buy the ring that proves your love. I believe that “traditionally” your ring is suppose to be worth 2 months of your man’s salary. I never knew that and to think that this tradition is only a little less than a century years old.
But I completely agree with Tori. I feel like if I accepted a proposal without a wedding ring that I am setting the stage for accepting a lot of half ass things in my relationship. I do believe that it shows financial stability as well. A man has a good idea of when he wants to propose. It’s all in his hands. Therefore, I believe that he is able to save up prior to his proposal and give his woman the ring she is deserving of. The ring to me is symbolic of taking the next step into one’s relationship.
I want a ring! Period point black! I mean the ring doesn’t seal the marriage but the symbol is IMPORTANT.