Today I had an intiment conversation with a gentlemen that claims he used to be homosexual when he was a teenager, but when he entered his 20’s and gave his life over to GOD he was saved from that life style.This gentlemen is now 27, has a fiancé and two beautiful children. He says that his wife knows about his past life style but does not hold it against him. This gentleman (who would like to remain anonymous) states that although some men would never admit it, but many males go through a stage of “finding themselves”, which means not only are they trying to find their “swag” or clothing style, but they are also trying to find their sexuality. This gentleman who I will refer to as DJ stated that the longest relationship he’s ever been in with a man was 2 years. However, DJ stated that after he joined church, he was prayed over by a pastor, baptized, and gave his life over to God. The homosexual demon that mislead his life broke away from his soul. DJ stated that not long after he met his wife Cassandra they were engaged within a year. In my opinion I understand DJ’s story but I still see feminine traits in him. I believe that one can never change whom they really are deep down inside. Although DJ is married and has children it is evident that he is still in touch with his feminine side by the way he dresses (his spandex work-out pants are a dead give away), walks (he throws his hips harder than Tyra Banks), and talks. However, I’m not saying that a person can’t legitimately change their sexual preference but my question to the women out there is; would you date a man that use to be homosexual if he gave his life over to God, or claimed that he permanently changed his sexual preference? Men answer the same question vice versa please. Express it below!!!
-Green Apple
This is a very interesting topic! I appreciate Dj’s honesty however personally I would of declined moving forward with him because I feel like once gay youre always gay. I don’t have anything against homosexuals at all. I love them for who they are but I do believe that people should be who they truly are. It seems that DJ is afraid to be who he actually is because it is not accepted in Christianity. If the world or other religions would be more accepting than I believe dj would have stayed true to him self. I truly believe he forced him self to be with a woman just because the world is not accepting of who he is as a person. My advice to someone in this situation is to just do you no matter what others think because you are only hurting yourself in the long run!
My question to the wife is how did she get over the fact that he used to be with men? Does she have a true sexually connection with him? Some women worry about the competition of other women. Does she ever worry that he will step out on her with another man???? I wish that she was able to answer these questions because I am truly interested but I know I most likely wont get these questions answered.
I would date DJ. He made a choice to change his life. He was not forced to give his life over to God. Having done so he decided that the way to go was heterosexual. Although it would take counseling and time to return his natural male traits I would not decline if he asked me on a date. I do not think that ppl are born gay.
SORRY BANANA, IM NOT FUCKIN WITH IT. IT IS GOOD THAT HE CHANGED, BUT FOR ME I COULDNT DATE A GUY THAT USED TO BE GAY. MANY PEOPLE WOULD ARGUE: WHATS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DATIN A GUY THAT USED TO BE GAY AND DATING A GUY THAT USED TO CHEAT? ITS A GOOD ARGUEMENT, HOWEVER A GAY PAST IS A LITTLE TOO EXTREME FOR ME TO GET OVER. ESPECIALLY IF HE STILL GOT HIS FEMININE WAYS, MY NIGGA CANT WALK HARDER THAN ME NOR CAN WE SHARE THE SAME CLOTHES.
I’m laughing at you Skrapp but I think he hiding he still is on the other team. And no problem he needs to put his jersy back on and play ball. Just be honest for your own sake. Love is love
Juicy. I think that you are who you are. Being femine is different than being homosexual. Why would anybody say they have they life to God and the demon of sexuality was released. Homosexuality is not a demon or a lifestyle. It’s love. As people we love pizza, different hairstyles, different pets etc. no one says snake lovers are an abomination. We need to stop all judgement because Someone loves differently than we do.
As for him having a new outlook on life that’s great but I think he believes he has a pass because he went to God. I don’t think so. We all go to God, but when we see a fine man them panties drop. And when he sees a fine man his boxers gonna drop no difference. Sounds like he trying to force a new family. I’m happy for him if this is truly what he wants. But what women wants a femine man? And what man wants a manly women? What’s up with the switching? Who he trying to switch to? You are who you are stand in your truth bro.
To each its own but its a NO for me Jack.
I totally agree with bad banana. What some people don’t understand is when you give your life to christ, not Christians but to CHRIST! There are things you will not do anymore and homosexuality is one of those things. God created Adam and eve. Don’t believe me? READ IT STRAIGHT OUT THE BIBLE. But something inside of him knows homosexuality isn’t right, which is why he prayed for deliverance from it. Of course he still may have thoughts or may not be the hardest male. But what’s life without test and trials. What’s life if we all had everything figured out according to God’s way. As long as we pass those test, which means in this case the desire to drop his boxers, then it shows God we are trying and the devil cant hold us down.
As for would I date a guy who used to be homosexual? Depends. I like had hard, tall, masculine, providing, funny, God fearing guy. If he meets those characteristics then yes. But if he doesnt then no, homosexual or not. My self esteem is high enough to know no matter someone’s past or who they were with, if he’s with me. Then that’s where he really wants to be. I’m no easy catch!
People are really interesting when they can believe in the Boggie man but can’t believe that some people are using a change in sexuality as a fake new career. Of course anything is possible and that’s definitely one option. There is someone for everyone to each its own
I couldnt date him but thats great he found love but if any man ever told me hes done anything with another man I would instantly stop dating him.
I DONT THINK HE IS HONEST WITH HIMSELF. AS SOFT SPOKEN CITIZEN MENTION, WHEN U GIVE YOUR LIFE TO CHRIST YOU GIVE IT TO CHRIST NOT CHRISTIANS. TRUE HOWEVER HE DECIDED NOT TO BE GAY IN ORDER TO GET LIFE RIGHT WITH GOD. BUT IF YOUR GOING TO GIVE YOUR LIFE OVER, GIVE ALL OF YOUR BAD HABITS AND SINS TO CHRIST. HE HAS A FIANCE NOT A WIFE AND TWO CHILDREN, HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A SIN AND SO IS BEIN GAY. NO SIN IS GREATER. SO IS HE REALLY STRAIGHT? OR DID HE THINK NOT BEING GAY WOULD MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER ABOUT GOING TO HEAVEN SO HE WENT ALONG WITH IT?
The mastermind is here!!! So we all know that there is a double standard for men and women! Gay men are treated a lot different than females who are lesbians. To me if a man is gay at any point in his life then he gay forever! I don’t wanna hear that changed shit! Now, with that being said I do not have anything against homosexuals. If that’s what you like then hey do you as long as you don’t cross that line with me. And badd banana you my people but I think your lying! I think a man will date a lesbian before most women will date a man that’s gay. I can’t really say I wouldn’t date a female that’s was a lesbian but for some men that’s a turn on! How many women can say gay men are a turn on for them? Don’t worry I’ll wait….I’m out
Sexuality is not a choice. Straight people don’t go through points in their lives where they have to figure out their sexuality. Unfortunately, Christianity is used by some to manipulate people and it’s sad.